Participants: Pr. Doug Batchelor
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Program Code: AFP000010
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00:03 AMAZING FACTS, INCORPORATED. 00:08 >> COMING UP NEXT ON AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS. 00:12 >> THE REASON SO MANY MARRIAGES FAIL TODAY IS BECAUSE PEOPLE 00:14 MARRY SOMEBODY BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY DO FOR THEM. 00:18 "I WANT YOU TO DO THIS FOR ME AND BE THIS FOR ME." 00:21 YOU'RE DOOMED TO FAIL. 00:26 >> FOR OVER 40 YEARS, AMAZING FACTS 00:28 HAS BEEN DEDICATED TO SHARING GOD'S WORD THROUGH MEDIA. 00:32 THIS PROGRAM FEATURES HIGHLIGHTS FROM SOME OF OUR BEST 00:36 TELEVISION BROADCASTS. WE INVITE YOU TO SIT BACK 00:40 AND ENJOY THIS EDITION OF AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS. 00:45 TODAY'S PRESENTATION IS AN EXCERPT FROM 00:47 THE NEW REVELATION VIDEO SERIES. >> YOU'RE JOINING THE 00:56 "NEW REVELATION" BIBLE STUDY OF AMAZING FACTS. 00:58 AND WE'RE GOING THROUGH THE STUDY GUIDE TODAY. 01:01 THIS IS THE ONLY ONE THAT DOESN'T REALLY DEAL WITH A BIBLE 01:03 THEME OF PROPHECY, SO TO SPEAK. BUT IT'S SO IMPORTANT. 01:07 "HAS HOLY WEDLOCK BECOME UNHOLY DEADLOCK?" 01:11 NOW THIS LESSON IS NOT GOING TO ONLY FOCUS ON THE SUBJECT OF 01:15 MARRIAGE. BUT I THINK MOST PEOPLE AT SOME 01:18 POINT IN THEIR LIFE ARE INVOLVED IN DATING, MARRIAGE, SEX, 01:22 RELATIONSHIPS, NOT IN THAT ORDER NECESSARILY. 01:26 AND WE'RE GOING TO ADDRESS ALL OF THOSE THINGS. 01:28 SO I THINK EVERYBODY LISTENING RIGHT NOW CAN RECEIVE A BLESSING 01:31 FROM OUR STUDY. LET'S GET RIGHT INTO IT. 01:33 QUESTION NUMBER 1: SECRETS TO HAVING A HAPPY HOME: ESTABLISH 01:41 YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME. NOW YOU KNOW THE BIBLE TELLS US 01:44 THAT MARRIAGE IS PART OF GOD'S PLAN. 01:48 ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS THAT THE LORD DID IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN 01:51 WAS HE ESTABLISHED MARRIAGE, THE INSTITUTION MALE AND FEMALE. 01:57 GOD SAID, "IT IS NOT GOOD THAT A MAN SHOULD BE ALONE." 02:01 ALL THE COWS HAD A BULL AND ALL OF THE ANIMALS HAD THEIR MATES, 02:07 BUT ADAM HAD NO HELPMEET. AND SO GOD CREATED A HELPMEET 02:12 FOR HIM. AND I HEARD ONE PREACHER SAY, 02:14 "THAT WAS NOT TO HELP MEET EXPENSES." 02:17 SHE WAS TO BE A HELPER FOR HIM. THEN GOD SAID, "A MAN SHALL 02:22 LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE, AND THEY 02:26 BECOME ONE FLESH." THE FAMILY UNIT IS THE 02:29 FOUNDATION FOR EVERY CULTURE IN SOCIETY. 02:33 WHEN THE FAMILY UNIT CRUMBLES, WHEN IT ERODES BECAUSE OF MORAL 02:38 DECAY, THE WHOLE CULTURE IS GOING TO FALL. MARK MY WORDS. 02:42 WHEN WE LOSE RESPECT, WHEN THE SACRED INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE 02:46 IS NOT RESPECTED, THE WHOLE CULTURE IS GOING TO BE SUFFERING 02:51 AS A RESULT OF THAT. NOW ONE OF THE THINGS THAT 02:53 SOMETIMES CAUSES A PROBLEM IS A YOUNG COUPLE, OR AN OLD COUPLE, 02:57 WHEN THEY BEGIN A NEW FAMILY UNIT, THEY NEED TO HAVE FREEDOM 03:01 TO MAKE THESE ADJUSTMENTS BY THEMSELVES. 03:04 IT CAN SOMETIMES BE VERY DIFFICULT WHEN LOVING AND 03:07 CONCERNED PARENTS, PARENTS-IN-LAW, THE IN-LAWS AND 03:11 OUTLAWS START TO MOVE IN AND LIVE WITH THEM, BECAUSE I'LL 03:15 TELL YOU WHAT HAPPENS. 03:16 WHEN TWO PEOPLE GET MARRIED, ISN'T IT INTERESTING SOMEONE 03:19 NAMED BATCHELOR IS SHARING ABOUT MARRIAGE WITH YOU RIGHT NOW? 03:23 BUT THERE ARE SO MANY ADJUSTMENTS TO TAKE PLACE THAT 03:26 IF YOU'VE GOT THE OUTSIDE INFLUENCE OF NOT ONLY HAVING TO 03:29 GET USED TO YOUR NEW WIFE OR YOUR NEW HUSBAND, BUT THEIR 03:31 FAMILY TO BOOT, IT REALLY ADDS A LOT OF PRESSURE. 03:35 AND WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE STATISTICS OF FAILED MARRIAGES, 03:37 A LOT OF THESE FAILURES COME BECAUSE OF OUTSIDE INFLUENCE OF 03:41 MEDDLING RELATIVES. AMEN? 03:44 SO ESTABLISH YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME. 03:46 NUMBER 2: CONTINUE YOUR COURTSHIP. 03:50 HOW MANY, ESPECIALLY THE LADIES, WILL SAY, "WELL, HE WASN'T LIKE 03:54 THIS WHEN WE WERE DATING. WHEN WE WERE DATING HE WAS 03:57 CONSTANTLY, YOU KNOW, BRINGING ME FLOWERS AND CALLING. 04:00 AND WE'D JUST SIT ON THE PHONE FOR ENDLESS HOURS. 04:02 AND WHEN WE HAD NOTHING TO SAY WE'D LISTEN TO EACH OTHER 04:04 BREATHE. AND NOW WHEN HE CALLS, HE JUST 04:08 WANTS TO KNOW, 'ARE YOU ALIVE? ARE THE KIDS ALIVE? 04:10 GOODBYE.'" YOU KNOW AND IT'S JUST, 04:12 EVERYTHING'S CHANGED. WELL, LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING LADIES. 04:17 MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT ONLY DIFFERENT AS FAR AS GENDER; WE 04:21 ARE DIFFERENT AS FAR AS THE WAY OUR BRAINS OPERATE. 04:24 I'VE HEARD THAT LADIES ARE DIFFERENT IN THE RESPECT THAT 04:26 THEY USE BOTH SIDES OF THEIR BRAIN IN CONCERT. 04:29 MEN THINK MOSTLY--HELP ME. IS IT THE LEFT OR RIGHT? 04:33 I FORGET. LEFT SIDE OF THE BRAIN. 04:36 WOMEN INTERACT WITH BOTH SIDES. THE EMOTIONS AND THE FACTS. 04:39 MEN ARE MORE TASK-ORIENTED AND FACT-ORIENTED IN THEIR THINKING. 04:43 MEN THINK IN TERMS OF HEADLINES. WHAT ARE THE HEADLINES? 04:46 THE LADIES WANT TO KNOW WHAT'S THE FINE PRINT? 04:48 NOW I REALLY WISH KAREN WAS HERE RIGHT NOW AS I SHARE THIS 04:52 PRESENTATION WITH YOU. SHE PROBABLY HAS SOME THINGS TO 04:54 SHARE HERSELF. IT MAY BE BETTER SHE'S NOT HERE. 04:56 BUT WE'LL CALL. YOU KNOW, I REALLY MISS HER AND 05:01 SO WE'RE CALLING EVERY SINGLE DAY. 05:03 I THINK THERE'S ONLY BEEN ONE DAY THAT WE FAILED TO TALK TO 05:05 EACH OTHER SINCE I'VE BEEN HERE. AND I'LL CALL AND GO, "ARE YOU 05:08 OKAY? ARE THE KIDS OKAY? IS THE HOUSE STILL THERE?" 05:11 AND SHE'LL SAY, "YES, EVERYTHING'S FINE." 05:13 THEN SHE'LL SAY, "SO WHAT DID YOU DO?" 05:16 YOU KNOW, AND SHE'LL START TELLING ME ABOUT WHAT 05:17 SHE COOKED AND WHERE SHE SHOPPED AND WHAT HAPPENED. 05:20 AND SHE WANTS TO EXPERIENCE THE CONVERSATION. 05:23 YOU KNOW, AND THE MAN JUST WANTS TO GET THE HEADLINES. 05:24 SHE WANTS THE FINE PRINT. WHEN A MAN IS DATING, HE'S 05:28 USING BOTH SIDES OF HIS BRAIN. AND, YOU KNOW, HE ALL OF THE 05:33 SUDDEN SOMETHING KICKS IN. ONCE HE SAYS, "I DO," 05:35 THAT SHUTS OFF. AND HE DOESN'T NEED IT ANYMORE. 05:39 HE SAYS, "I HAVE CONQUERED THE TASK OF MARRIAGE. 05:42 IT'S NOT NECESSARY ANYMORE." AND LADIES, BE PATIENT. 05:45 MEN, IT IS NOT NATURAL FOR THEM. IT TAKES AN ENORMOUS EFFORT FOR 05:49 HIM TO COMMUNICATE THE WAY THAT YOU COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER. 05:53 LET ME GIVE YOU AN ILLUSTRATION OF HOW DIFFERENT THEY ARE. 05:56 IF YOU TAKE A GYMNASIUM AND YOU SET UP 50 CHAIRS IN A GREAT, BIG 06:00 GYMNASIUM, AND YOU SET MEN IN THE CHAIRS, THEY'RE VERY 06:04 COMFORTABLE, EVEN THOUGH THEY'RE ALL SPREAD OUT WITH 15 FEET 06:07 AROUND THEM, BECAUSE THEY ARE TERRITORIAL. 06:09 THEY SAY, "I'VE GOT MY TERRITORY. I'M ALRIGHT." 06:12 THEY WANT TO KNOW, "WHAT IS MY SPACE? WHAT DO I OWN? 06:15 WHAT DO I CONTROL?" AND THEN THEY'RE COMFORTABLE. 06:19 YOU PUT LADIES IN A SITUATION LIKE THAT, WHEN THEY'RE SO FAR 06:21 AWAY FROM THE OTHER LADIES IN THE ROOM, THEY GET VERY 06:23 UNCOMFORTABLE. 06:25 YOU TAKE A BUNCH OF MEN AND SQUEEZE 'EM ON A COUCH NEXT 06:28 TO OTHER MEN, AND THEY LOOK DOWN TO SEE, "AM I ON MY OWN CUSHION 06:32 OR AM I SHARING A CUSHION WITH THIS GUY? WE DON'T KNOW 06:35 EACH OTHER THAT WELL." AND THEY GET REAL UNCOMFORTABLE. 06:40 YOU PUT A LOT OF LADIES IN A SMALL ROOM LIKE THAT AND YOU 06:42 GO IN THERE 10 MINUTES LATER AND THEY'RE ALL SHARING 06:43 THE MOST INTIMATE SECRETS WITH THESE STRANGERS. 06:48 YOU KNOW, THE BIBLE SAYS, "HUSBANDS LOVE YOUR WIVES, EVEN 06:51 AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH." 06:54 ONE THING I NOTICE ABOUT JESUS, GOD THE FATHER, SON, AND HOLY 06:57 SPIRIT, THEY'RE NEVER TRYING TO GET HAPPINESS FOR THEMSELVES, 07:01 BUT JESUS AND GOD, THE FATHER, SON, AND HOLY SPIRIT ARE ALWAYS 07:04 GIVING THE GLORY AND THE CREDIT TO THE OTHERS. 07:08 GOD--JESUS IS ALWAYS GLORIFYING THE FATHER. 07:10 THE FATHER IS ALWAYS GLORIFYING THE SON. 07:12 THE SPIRIT IS ALWAYS GLORIFYING THE FATHER AND THE SON. 07:14 THAT'S THE SECRET TO A HAPPY HOME. 07:16 TRY TO OUT GIVE THE OTHER PERSON. TRY TO OUT LOVE THEM. 07:21 THE REASON SO MANY MARRIAGES FAIL TODAY IS BECAUSE PEOPLE 07:24 MARRY SOMEBODY BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY DO FOR THEM. 07:27 "I WANT YOU TO DO THIS FOR ME AND BE THIS FOR ME." 07:30 YOU'RE DOOMED TO FAIL. STOP THINKING OF WHAT THAT 07:33 PERSON IS GOING TO BE AND DO FOR YOU. 07:35 HUSBANDS, IF YOU TREAT YOUR WIFE LIKE A QUEEN, SHE'LL TREAT YOU 07:38 LIKE A KING. LADIES, IF YOU TREAT HIM LIKE A 07:40 KING, HE'LL TREAT YOU LIKE A QUEEN. NUMBER 3: REMEMBER 07:44 THAT GOD JOINED YOU IN MARRIAGE. MARRIAGE IS NOT AN EXPERIMENT. 07:51 SOME PEOPLE GET MARRIED SO OFTEN IN OUR SOCIETY THAT THEY OUGHT 07:55 TO SIGN THEIR CERTIFICATES, "TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN." 07:59 I MEAN PEOPLE ENTER INTO MARRIAGES AND BECAUSE DIVORCE IS 08:03 SO RAMPANT, FOLKS SAY, "WELL, IF IT DOESN'T WORK OUT, I'LL JUST 08:06 FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND DO IT AGAIN." IF YOU'RE A CHRISTIAN, 08:09 THAT'S NOT AN OPTION. YOU CAN'T THINK THAT WAY. 08:12 MARRIAGE IS A DIVINE INSTITUTION. 08:15 THE BIBLE SAYS, "YOU BECOME ONE FLESH." 08:17 AND I HAVE NOT YET SEEN A DIVORCE WHERE PEOPLE DID NOT 08:20 TEAR FROM LIMB TO LIMB ETERNALLY. 08:23 NUMBER 4: GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS. DON'T LET YOUR SENSES TRAP YOU. 08:30 NOW THIS WOULD BE NOT ONLY FOR THOSE THAT ARE IN MARRIAGE, BUT 08:34 THOSE THAT ARE DATING. A LOT OF PEOPLE GET INTO TROUBLE 08:37 WHEN THEY'RE DATING BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT CONTROLLING THEIR 08:41 THINKING. LET'S TALK FOR A MINUTE 08:42 ABOUT SEX. SEX HAPPENS IN THE MIND. 08:48 A LOT OF PEOPLE THINK THAT SEX IS THE RESULT OF WHAT'S 08:51 HAPPENING BELOW THE WAIST. NO, IT REALLY HAPPENS HERE. 08:56 SUCCESS AS A CHRISTIAN BEGINS WITH BEING PURE IN HEART. 09:01 THAT'S TALKING ABOUT AS A MAN THINKS IN HIS HEART. 09:03 YOU CANNOT BE IN THE KINGDOM, "BLESSED ARE THE PURE IN HEART. 09:06 THEY WILL SEE GOD." 09:07 ONE OF THE THINGS YOU'VE GOT TO DO WHEN YOU BECOME A CHRISTIAN 09:09 IS ASK THE HOLY SPIRIT TO CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS. 09:12 AND HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE GOTTEN IN TROUBLE DATING AND IN 09:14 MARRIAGE BECAUSE THEY WERE NOT LETTING THE HOLY SPIRIT TO 09:18 CONTROL THEIR THOUGHTS? 09:19 AND THEY ALLOW THE MIND TO WANDER IN FORBIDDEN ZONES. 09:22 MAKE UP YOUR MIND IN ADVANCE THAT SOME THINGS ARE NOT 09:26 ADMISSIBLE. AND AS SOON AS THE DEVIL BEGINS 09:28 TO PLANT FORBIDDEN SUGGESTIONS, PUT THEM OUT OF YOUR MIND. 09:32 A MAN IS ATTRACTED TO CERTAIN CURVES IN A WOMAN'S FIGURE. 09:36 THAT'S WHY THEY CALL CORVETTES SEXY. 09:40 AND GUITARS ARE SO POPULAR. IT'S THE CURVES. 09:44 WOMEN OUGHT TO DRESS IN SUCH A WAY THAT EVERYTHING IS A LITTLE 09:47 HIGH ENOUGH, LOW ENOUGH AND LOSE ENOUGH SO THAT WHAT A MAN SEES 09:50 WHEN HE LOOKS AT YOU IS NOT ALL THE CURVES. AMEN? 09:56 I THINK CHRISTIANS--THE BIBLE SAYS IT'S A SIN FOR A MAN TO 09:58 LOOK ON THE OPPOSITE SEX IN LUST. DO WE ALL AGREE? 10:01 IS IT A SIN FOR A WOMAN TO DRESS DELIBERATELY IN SUCH A WAY AS TO 10:04 GET MEN TO LOOK? IF A MAN SEES AN ATTRACTIVE, 10:07 YOUNG GIRL WITH A GOOD FIGURE WALKING ACROSS THE STREET, IN A 10:09 BIKINI, HE WILL AUTOMATICALLY LOOK. UNLESS HE ASKS THE HOLY 10:15 SPIRIT--AND YOU KNOW, INCIDENTALLY GUYS, IF YOU FIRST 10:18 NOTICE THAT, IT'S NOT A SIN; IT'S WHEN YOU CONTINUE TO DWELL 10:21 UPON THE SUBJECT, IT TURNS INTO A SIN. AMEN? 10:24 YOU CANNOT PREVENT THE BIRDS FROM FLYING OVER YOUR HEAD. 10:27 BUT YOU CAN PREVENT THEM FROM MAKING A NEST IN YOUR HAIR. 10:30 HAVING A VISUAL OBSERVATION IS DIFFERENT FROM HAVING AN 10:33 IMAGINATION THAT GETS CARRIED AWAY. 10:38 A MAN WILL AUTOMATICALLY LOOK AT SOMETHING LIKE THAT. 10:40 AND SO THAT'S WHEN HE NEEDS TO PRAY THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL HELP 10:43 HIM REFOCUS HIS ATTENTION BEFORE HE STARTS DELVING INTO THE 10:46 FORBIDDEN ZONE OF COMMITTING ADULTERY IN HIS MIND. AMEN? 10:51 AND SO YOU'VE GOT TO KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS PURE. 10:53 NOT ONLY WHEN IT COMES TO THAT, BUT SOMETIMES WHEN YOU'RE 10:56 DATING, THE THOUGHTS LEAD TO ACTIONS. 11:02 AND THE ACTIONS LEAD TO REACTIONS. 11:05 A LOT OF PEOPLE GET IN TROUBLE WHEN THEY'RE DATING, BECAUSE 11:08 THEY DON'T HAVE A PLAN. KEEP YOUR MIND BUSY DOING GOOD 11:11 THINGS AND YOU WON'T START THINKING UP OTHER THINGS TO DO. 11:15 GOD DESIGNED--GOT REAL QUIET IN HERE ALL OF THE SUDDEN--GOD 11:20 DESIGNED ONE MAN, ONE WOMAN, ONE RELATIONSHIP. 11:24 AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR IMAGINATION WHEN IT 11:26 HAPPENS ACCORDING TO GOD'S PLAN. YOUNG PEOPLE WHO THINK, "WELL, 11:29 WE'LL PROBABLY GET MARRIED LATER." 11:32 AND THEY SACRIFICE THEIR CONVICTIONS. 11:34 AND THEN THE RELATIONSHIP AND THE DATING BREAKS OFF. 11:37 AND THEY'VE GONE THROUGH TWO OR THREE OR FOUR OR MORE OF THESE 11:40 FAILED DATING RELATIONSHIPS WHERE THEY'RE LIVING WITH 11:43 PEOPLE. IF YOU WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT A 11:45 POTENTIAL, FUTURE HUSBAND OR WIFE IS LIKE, YOU DON'T FIND OUT 11:49 IN THE BEDROOM. SHARE A CHECKBOOK, NOT A BED, IF 11:52 YOU WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT IT'S GOING TO BE LIKE. AMEN? 11:55 YOU KNOW THE NUMBER ONE REASON FIRST MARRIAGES FAIL IN THE 11:58 FIRST TWO YEARS IS FINANCES. 12:02 ONE OF THE MAIN MARRIAGES SECOND MARRIAGES FAIL IS STEPCHILDREN. 12:06 BUT FINANCES, VERY FEW MARRIAGES FAIL BECAUSE THE PLUMBING ISN'T 12:11 WORKING. DON'T WORRY; IT'S GONNA WORK. 12:14 THE CHECKBOOK MAY NOT WORK. 12:17 SHE MIGHT BE A SPENDAHOLIC OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. 12:20 SEE IF YOU CAN SHARE A CHECKBOOK FIRST. 12:23 KEEP CHRIST THE CENTER OF YOUR HOME. 12:25 JESUS SAID, "CAN TWO WALK TOGETHER UNLESS THEY'RE AGREED?" 12:29 SOME MARRIAGES JUST DO NOT WORK OUT VERY WELL BECAUSE ONE'S 12:38 GOING THIS WAY AND ONE'S GOING THIS WAY. 12:41 IF JESUS IS THE DESTINATION FOR BOTH PARTIES, YOU'RE 12:43 AUTOMATICALLY MOVING TOWARDS CHRIST. 12:46 SOME FAMILIES WILL PRAY OVER THEIR FOOD AT MEALS, BUT THEY 12:49 DON'T PRAY TOGETHER AS HUSBAND AND WIFE. 12:52 IF A HUSBAND AND A WIFE ARE CHRISTIAN AND THEY'RE NOT 12:54 PRAYING TOGETHER, I QUESTION THEIR CHRISTIANITY. 12:57 KAREN AND I GO TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT--AND I'M NOT SETTING US UP 12:59 AS THE EXAMPLE, I'M JUST LETTING YOU INTO OUR FAMILY A LITTLE 13:01 BIT. WE HAVE PRAYER TOGETHER. 13:04 WE TAKE HANDS WHILE WE'RE LAYING IN BED THERE TOGETHER. 13:07 AND WE HAVE PRAYER. WE PRAY ABOUT THE THINGS OF THE DAY. 13:11 WE COMMIT OUR LIVES TO THE LORD. WE HAVE PERSONAL PRAYER. 13:14 AND WE ALSO PRAY TOGETHER. 13:15 YOU'LL FIND OUT IT REALLY BONDS YOU TOGETHER WHEN YOU KEEP 13:18 RE-PRIORITIZING YOUR FAMILY WITH JESUS IN THE MIDDLE. 13:22 IF JESUS IS YOUR DESTINATION, YOU WILL AUTOMATICALLY CONTINUE 13:25 TO MOVE TOWARDS EACH OTHER, WHICH BRINGS ME TO ANOTHER VERY, 13:28 VERY IMPORTANT POINT. EVERYBODY LISTENING? 13:32 IF YOU'RE NOT MARRIED, DO NOT MARRY AN UNBELIEVER IF YOU'RE A 13:36 BELIEVER. SAY AMEN. YOU DO NOT GRAB A RATTLESNAKE BY 13:41 ITS HEAD. YOU DO NOT PUT BLACK WIDOWS IN 13:46 YOUR CLOTHES HAMPER. YOU DO NOT DRINK STRYCHNINE. 13:51 AND YOU DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT OF THE SAME DENOMINATION. 13:55 AND YOU KNOW WHAT? EVERY PASTOR KNOWS THAT THIS IS 13:58 A PROBLEM. MOST PASTORS, A BAPTIST, WILL 14:01 NOT MARRY ONE OF HIS MEMBERS TO A CATHOLIC. 14:03 CATHOLICS WILL NOT MARRY THEIR PEOPLE TO METHODISTS. 14:05 IT CAUSES TERRIBLE PROBLEMS FOR THE CHILDREN. 14:08 THEY'RE GETTING PULLED IN SO MANY DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS, AND 14:10 THEY'RE CONFUSED. MARRY SOMEONE OF THE SAME FAITH. 14:13 NOW A LOT OF YOU OUT THERE ARE GOING, "UH, I'M ALREADY IN A 14:16 SITUATION LIKE THIS. WHAT DO I DO?" TOUGH. NO. 14:23 DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO FIND COMMON GROUND AND LOVE EACH 14:28 OTHER WITH THE COMMON GROUND YOU HAVE. 14:32 DO NOT SACRIFICE PRINCIPLES OF TRUTH. 14:35 IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO AN UNBELIEVER, MAKE SURE THAT THE 14:38 CHILDREN HAVE EXPOSURE TO CHRIST AND THE TRUTH AND CHRISTIANITY. 14:43 SOMETIMES IT CAN BE THEIR SAVING. 14:44 SOME PEOPLE ENTER INTO MARRIAGES THINKING, "WELL, I KNOW HE'S NOT 14:47 A BELIEVER NOW, BUT HE'S SURE CUTE. AND HE'S SURE NICE. 14:50 AND I THINK I'LL CONVERT HIM AFTERWARDS." OH, FAMOUS LAST 14:53 WORDS. YOU KNOW HOW MANY TIMES I'VE HEARD PEOPLE SAY THAT? 14:55 AND WHAT OFTEN HAPPENS IS THE UNBELIEVING SPOUSE CONVERTS THE 14:58 BELIEVER TO BE AN UNBELIEVER. AND THEY STOP GOING TO CHURCH. 15:04 VERY DANGEROUS. YOU KNOW, SAMSON, HE WAS INTO MIXED 15:07 MARRIAGES. YOU READ HIS STORY? OH, IT BACKFIRED BIG TIME. 15:14 FIND PEOPLE OF YOUR OWN FAITH. AND WHEN, WHEN SAMSON SAID TO 15:17 HIS PARENTS, "OH, BUT I WANT TO MARRY HER." 15:19 THEY SAY, "CAN'T YOU FIND SOMEONE OF YOUR OWN FAITH?" 15:21 HE SAID, "OH, BUT SHE PLEASETH ME WELL." I WANT HER. 15:24 SHE'S PRETTY. SHE'S ATTRACTIVE. AND HOW MANY YOUNG MEN GET INTO 15:27 A MARRIAGE WITH A PRETTY, YOUNG THING BECAUSE OF LOOKS? 15:32 AND THEY'RE JUST LOOKING ON THE OUTSIDE. 15:34 IT'S LIKE BUYING A HOUSE 'CAUSE OF THE PAINT. 15:36 IT'S GONNA FADE AND PEEL SOMEDAY. AMEN? 15:41 SOMETIMES THOSE HOUSES ADD ON, TOO, AS THE YEARS GO BY. 15:48 NUMBER 7, I ALREADY TOUCHED ON THIS A LITTLE BIT: PRAY 15:53 TOGETHER. AND YOU'LL FIND IT REALLY BONDS 15:56 YOUR LIVES WHEN YOU SPEND TIME IN FAMILY WORSHIP. 15:59 PRAY WITH THE CHILDREN IN THE MORNING. 16:02 NUMBER 8, VERY IMPORTANT: AGREE THAT DIVORCE IS NOT THE ANSWER. 16:09 WHEN YOU FIRST ENTER INTO A MARRIAGE, MAKE IT CLEAR THAT 16:14 DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION. IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS AS 16:17 YOU'RE--YOU KNOW A LOT OF YOUNG PEOPLE, THEY'LL SET A DATE FOR A 16:20 MARRIAGE. AND AS THEY'RE MOVING TOWARDS 16:21 THAT DATE, THEY'RE UNEASY. CANCEL IT. 16:24 I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE STANDING THERE WITH $10,000 WORTH OF 16:27 WEDDING PREPARATIONS. YOU'VE GOT ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND 16:30 FAMILY THERE. YOU'RE IN FRONT OF THE MINISTER. 16:32 YOU'RE GETTING READY TO SAY, "I DO." 16:34 IF YOU KNOW THAT'S NOT THE RIGHT PERSON, THEN YOU SAY, "I DON'T." 16:38 IT'S EASIER THEN TO PAY $10,000 THAN TO PAY ALIMONY LATER ON. 16:46 DO NOT MAKE A MISTAKE OF GOING INTO A MARRIAGE IF YOU'RE NOT 16:49 SURE THAT THIS IS THE PERSON THAT GOD HAS LED YOU TO. 16:52 AMEN? YOU'VE GOT TO BE VERY SURE. 16:54 IF YOU'RE NOT VERY SURE, KEEP POSTPONING THE DATE. 16:57 YOU DON'T HAVE TO RUSH INTO THESE THINGS. 17:00 A LOT OF FOLKS THINK, "OH, I DON'T THINK I'LL BE ABLE TO 17:02 CONTROL MYSELF. I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN WAIT THAT 17:04 LONG." THAT'S ANOTHER REASON TO WAIT. 17:06 WAIT UNTIL YOU KNOW YOU CAN CONTROL YOURSELF. 17:08 NUMBER 9, KEEP THE FAMILY CIRCLE CLOSED TIGHTLY. 17:14 PROVERBS 11:13, "A FRIEND KNOWS HOW TO CONCEAL A MATTER." 17:22 YOU OUGHT TO BE ABLE TO SHARE THINGS IN YOUR FAMILY THAT 17:24 AREN'T IN THE STREET THE NEXT DAY. 17:27 SOME WOMEN WONDER WHY THEIR HUSBANDS SEEM A LITTLE DISTANT. 17:31 AND THE HUSBANDS FIND OUT THAT ANYTHING THEY TELL THEIR WIVES, 17:33 THEIR WIVES THEN TELL THEIR GIRLFRIENDS. 17:35 AND ALL OF THE SUDDEN THAT HUSBAND GETS THE IDEA, "SHE'S 17:38 CLOSER TO THEM THAN ME. I CANNOT TRUST HER." 17:41 IT VIOLATES THE FAITH AND THE SANCTITY IN THAT RELATIONSHIP. 17:45 AND I DON'T KEEP SECRETS FROM MY WIFE. 17:48 PEOPLE WILL TELL ME THINGS. AND THEY'LL SAY, "NOW I'M GONNA 17:51 TELL YOU SOMETHING, BUT DON'T TELL ANYONE ELSE." 17:52 AND I SAY, "NOW MY WIFE AND I ARE ONE FLESH. 17:54 AND I'M GONNA TELL HER. I HOPE THAT'S OKAY." 17:56 AND I CAN TRUST MY WIFE. I'LL SAY, "KAREN, THIS IS 17:58 SOMETHING THAT SOMEONE SHARED WITH ME. 18:00 WE NEED TO KEEP IT JUST AMONG OURSELVES." 18:02 BUT I GOTTA HAVE SOMEONE I CAN TALK TO. 18:04 AND I CAN TRUST MY WIFE. 18:05 YOU'VE GOT TO HAVE TRUST WITH EACH OTHER. 18:08 SOON AS YOU START HIDING THINGS FROM ONE ANOTHER, THEN YOUR 18:11 TRUST BEGINS TO DETERIORATE. BUT FAMILY THINGS, EVERY 18:15 FAMILY'S GOT ITS LITTLE IDIOSYNCRASIES AND SECRETS. 18:18 KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY. AMEN? NUMBER 10, GOD DESCRIBES LOVE; 18:24 MAKE IT YOUR DAILY GOAL TO MEASURE UP. 18:27 YOU KNOW, IT TELLS US IN 1 CORINTHIANS 13, YOU OUGHT TO 18:29 READ THIS, NOT NECESSARILY NOW, BUT MARK IT IN YOUR BIBLE. 18:32 GOD'S DEFINITION OF LOVE: "LOVE IS FORBEARING AND KIND; LOVE 18:37 KNOWS NO JEALOUSY; LOVE DOES NOT BRAG, IT IS NOT CONCEITED. 18:41 SHE IS NOT UNMANNERLY, NOR SELFISH, NOR IRRITABLE, NOR 18:44 MINDFUL OF WRONGS; SHE DOES NOT REJOICE IN INJUSTICE, BUT 18:48 JOYFULLY SIDES WITH THE TRUTH; SHE CAN OVERLOOK FAULTS, SHE IS 18:53 FULL OF TRUST, FULL OF HOPE, FULL OF ENDURANCE. 18:56 LOVE IS PATIENT." NUMBER 11, REMEMBER CRITICISM 19:02 AND NAGGING DESTROY LOVE. NOW, THIS IS ONE AREA, AND I 19:10 DON'T WANT TO OVER-GENERALIZE, BUT SOME WOMEN WONDER WHY THE 19:15 MEN ARE OUT A LOT, AND THEY DON'T SPEND ENOUGH TIME AT HOME. 19:19 THE MAN FEELS LIKE HE'S GETTING BEAT UP WHENEVER HE COMES HOME. 19:22 SO THE NATURAL REACTION IS TO PUT IT OFF AS LONG AS POSSIBLE. 19:25 MAKE SURE THAT YOU KNOW HOW TO ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER. 19:31 YOU KNOW, YOU CAN MAKE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE. 19:32 SOMETIMES A MAN WILL COME HOME AND THE WIFE HAS BEEN WORKING 19:34 ALL DAY LONG, TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN, COOKING THE FOOD, AND 19:38 JUST SLAVING UNDER ALL KINDS OF ADVERSE CONDITIONS. 19:41 AND HE'LL NOTICE ONE THING WRONG, INSTEAD OF PRAISING HER 19:44 FOR ALL THE GOOD THAT SHE'S DONE. 19:45 MEN, I'LL TELL YOU A LITTLE SECRET. 19:46 WHEN YOU COME HOME, LOOK YOUR WIFE OVER REAL CAREFULLY. 19:50 SEE IF THERE'S ANY CHANGES. 19:52 YOU CAN KEEP OUT OF A LOT OF TROUBLE IF YOU'LL NOTICE 19:54 SOMETHING LIKE A NEW DRESS OR A HAIRCUT. 19:58 SOMETIMES KAREN WILL SAY, "DO YOU NOTICE ANYTHING?" 20:01 AND I'LL SAY, "OH, YOU GOT YOUR HAIR PERMED?" 20:04 SHE'LL SAY, "YEAH, LAST MONTH. I CLEANED THE HOUSE." 20:07 AND SO, YOU KNOW, YOU GOTTA REALLY BE OBSERVANT IS MY 20:12 ADVICE. BUT DON'T CRITICIZE AND NAG. 20:17 A LOT OF MARRIAGES HAVE BEEN DESTROYED, THEY'VE BEEN BURIED 20:20 BY LITTLE DIGS, ONE SHOVEL AT A TIME. 20:23 NUMBER 12, DO NOT OVERDO ANYTHING; BE TEMPERATE. 20:28 NOW, IN YOUR FAMILY YOU CAN OVERDO WORK. 20:33 MEN, YOU LISTENING? 20:35 IN YOUR ZEAL FOR TRYING TO PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY, YOU CAN 20:40 FIND OUT YOU'RE 50 YEARS OLD, YOUR WIFE HAS NOW LEFT YOU 20:43 BECAUSE YOU HAD NO RELATIONSHIP. THE KIDS ARE GROWN. 20:45 YOU GOT LOTS OF MONEY AND NO FAMILY. 20:47 YOU CAN BECOME A WORKAHOLIC. AND I HAVE TO GUARD THAT. 20:51 I'M VERY BUSY AND KAREN HAS TO KEEP REMINDING ME, "IF YOU SAVE 20:54 THE WORLD AND LOSE YOUR FAMILY, WHAT GOOD IS IT?" 20:56 SO I HAVE TO KEEP SCHEDULING TIME JUST FOR THE FAMILY. 21:00 13: RESPECT EACH OTHER'S PERSONAL RIGHTS AND PRIVACIES. 21:04 NOW, THOUGH I DO NOT KEEP SECRETS FROM KAREN, SHE REALIZES 21:08 THAT I WANT TO HONOR THAT DOUG HAS CERTAIN THINGS THAT ARE HIS. 21:12 I HAVE MY DESK. SHE'S FREE TO GO IN MY DESK, I 21:14 DON'T LOCK IT, BUT SHE DOESN'T. I HAVE MY MAIL. 21:17 I DON'T CARE IF SHE OPENS MY MAIL, BUT WHEN WE GO THROUGH THE 21:18 MAIL, ANYTHING THAT HAS MY NAME ON IT, SHE PUTS IN FRONT OF ME, 21:21 THAT I MIGHT READ IT. SAME THING: I PUT HER STUFF, 21:24 SHE'S GOT MAIL AND CATALOGS THAT COME, I'D LIKE TO THROW IN THE 21:28 GARBAGE, BUT I PUT THEM THERE ON THE DESK FOR HER TO LOOK AT. 21:31 YOU'VE GOT TO RESPECT EACH OTHER'S PLACE. 21:34 AMEN? A LOT OF MARRIAGES--I KNOW A 21:37 MAN, HE IS SO CONTROLLING WITH HIS WIFE. 21:39 WHEN SHE GETS OFF THE PHONE, HE PICKS UP THE PHONE AND PRESSES 21:42 REDIAL TO FIND OUT WHO SHE'S TALKING TO. 21:44 AND IT JUST DESTROYS THE RELATIONSHIP. 21:47 YOU NEED TO RESPECT EACH OTHER'S PERSONAL RIGHTS. 21:51 NUMBER 14: BE CLEAN, MODEST, ORDERLY, AND DUTIFUL. 21:57 NOW, YOU KNOW, WHEN I LIVED IN A CAVE, I WANT TO LET YOU KNOW 22:00 RIGHT NOW, YOU CAN ASK KAREN WHEN SHE GETS HERE, IT WAS THE 22:02 CLEANEST CAVE IN THE MOUNTAINS. I WENT TO MILITARY SCHOOL WHEN I 22:05 WAS 5 AND AGAIN WHEN I WAS 11 TO 13, AND I'M VERY NEAT. 22:09 YOU GO LOOK WHERE I'M STAYING RIGHT NOW; I GOT EVERYTHING IN 22:10 ITS PLACE. MATTER OF FACT, KAREN THINKS 22:12 THAT I'M KOOKY 'CAUSE I'M SO NEAT. 22:15 BUT I THINK HUSBANDS OUGHT TO HELP CLEAN. WASH THE DISHES. 22:21 I JUST MADE A LOT OF FRIENDS ALL AROUND THE WORLD. 22:25 I HELP MAKE THE BED EVERY MORNING. 22:27 KAREN AND I SLEEP IN IT TOGETHER; I FIGURE WE CAN MAKE 22:28 IT TOGETHER. NOW IF SHE STAYS IN BED WHEN I 22:30 GO TO WORK, IT'S UP TO HER. SOMETIMES THE BABY KEEPS HER UP 22:33 AND SHE'S STILL IN BED. BUT WE MAKE THE BED TOGETHER. 22:35 I WASH DISHES. I HELP CLEAN THE HOUSE. 22:39 I CLEAN THE OFFICE. I KNOW HOW TO VACUUM. 22:41 YOU KNOW, HUSBANDS, NOWHERE IN THE BIBLE DOES IT SAY THIS IS 22:43 WOMAN'S WORK. AND I THINK THAT EVERYBODY, YOU 22:46 KNOW, WE ALL NEED TO WORK TOGETHER IN A FAMILY. 22:49 AND LADIES, YOU CAN PULL WEEDS. YOU CAN WORK OUT IN THE GARDEN. 22:55 YOU CAN MOW THE LAWN. I MEAN, YOU KNOW, SOMETIMES 22:57 LADIES PLAY DUMB BECAUSE THEY WANT THE MEN TO DO IT. 23:00 THEY'RE NOT STUPID. THEY'LL SAY, "I'D LIKE TO HANG A 23:03 PICTURE RIGHT THERE." AND THEN THEY'LL GO PUNCH A HOLE 23:05 IN THE WALL WITH A HAMMER ON PURPOSE KNOWING THE HUSBAND WILL 23:08 NEVER ASK THEM TO PICK UP A HAMMER AGAIN. 23:11 AND THEY THINK WE'RE STUPID. 23:13 DETERMINE TO SPEAK SOFTLY AND KINDLY. 23:17 YOU KNOW, RESPECT--WHY IS IT THAT SOMETIMES PEOPLE RESPECT 23:21 THEIR ENEMIES AND NEGLECT THEIR SPOUSES? 23:24 SOMETIMES WE'RE KINDER TO STRANGERS THAN WE ARE TO OUR OWN 23:27 FAMILY. YOU MIGHT BE THINKING, "OH DOUG, 23:29 I DON'T KNOW HOW I CAN STAY MARRIED TO THIS PERSON. 23:31 IT'S LIKE THEY'RE MY ENEMY." WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT, FRIENDS? 23:34 JESUS SAID, "LOVE YOUR ENEMY." 23:36 SOME OF US ARE IN DIFFICULT MARRIAGES BECAUSE JESUS IS 23:38 HELPING YOU DEVELOP CHARACTER FIT FOR HEAVEN. YOU HEAR THAT? 23:42 YOU'RE THINKING, "IF I GET OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE, EVERYTHING 23:43 WILL BE ALRIGHT." YOU'RE GONNA FIND YOURSELF IN 23:45 THE SAME SITUATION. BE REASONABLE IN MONEY MATTERS. 23:50 I'VE TOLD YOU FINANCES ARE THE DOWNFALL OF MANY MARRIAGES. 23:54 CONSULT ON BIG EXPENDITURES. I DON'T GO OUT AND BUY A CAR AND 23:59 SAY, "HONEY, LOOK WHAT I BOUGHT." 24:01 WE WORK TOGETHER ON THE BIG EXPENSES. 24:02 KAREN KNOWS THAT SHE HAS A CERTAIN REALM OF THINGS THAT SHE 24:05 BUYS FOR, YOU KNOW, HER RESPONSIBILITIES WE'VE AGREED 24:07 ON. THERE'S CERTAIN THINGS I BUY. 24:09 I DON'T HAVE TO GO CONSULT HER IF I WANT TO GET A CLUB FOR THE 24:11 STEERING WHEEL. YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING? 24:13 SO YOU HAVE TO HAVE A LITTLE LATITUDE, BUT DON'T RUN UP BIG 24:15 BILLS THAT YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY TOGETHER WITHOUT 24:18 CONSULTING ONE ANOTHER. THAT'S DISRESPECTFUL FOR SOMEONE 24:21 YOU LOVE. AND THEN THE LAST QUESTION IS, 24:24 LET ME READ IT TO YOU RIGHT OUT OF HERE. 24:26 ARE YOU PRAYING THAT YOUR HOME WILL BE A PLACE WHERE THE ANGELS 24:29 OF HEAVEN WILL FEEL COMFORTABLE? IS YOUR ANSWER YES? 24:33 GOD CAN WORK IN YOUR MARRIAGES THAT YOU'RE PREPARING FOR IF 24:36 YOU'RE DATING NOW. OR YOU MAY ALREADY BE IN A MARRIAGE. 24:39 IF YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE AGREE YOUR HOUSE CAN BE A LITTLE BIT 24:43 OF HEAVEN ON EARTH, BELIEVE IT OR NOT. 24:46 MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN. SO IS THUNDER AND LIGHTENING. 24:49 THEY'LL BE A FEW STORMS SOMETIMES, BUT YOU CAN RIDE OUT 24:52 THE STORMS WITH CHRIST'S GRACE. 24:56 >> STAY TUNED. 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