PRESENATION BROUGHT TO
YOU BYFOLLOWING IS A PAID
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AMAZING FACTS, INCORPORATED.
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>> COMING UP NEXT ON
AMAZING FACTS PRESENTS.
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>> THE REASON SO MANY MARRIAGES
FAIL TODAY IS BECAUSE PEOPLE
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MARRY SOMEBODY BECAUSE
OF WHAT THEY DO FOR THEM.
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"I WANT YOU TO DO THIS
FOR ME AND BE THIS FOR ME."
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YOU'RE DOOMED TO FAIL.
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>> FOR OVER 40
YEARS, AMAZING FACTS
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TODAY'S
PRESENTATION IS AN EXCERPT FROM
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THE NEW REVELATION VIDEO
SERIES. >> YOU'RE JOINING THE
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"NEW REVELATION" BIBLE
STUDY OF AMAZING FACTS.
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AND WE'RE GOING
THROUGH THE STUDY GUIDE TODAY.
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THIS IS THE ONLY ONE THAT
DOESN'T REALLY DEAL WITH A BIBLE
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THEME OF PROPHECY, SO TO
SPEAK. BUT IT'S SO IMPORTANT.
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"HAS HOLY WEDLOCK
BECOME UNHOLY DEADLOCK?"
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NOW THIS LESSON IS NOT GOING
TO ONLY FOCUS ON THE SUBJECT OF
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MARRIAGE. BUT I
THINK MOST PEOPLE AT SOME
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POINT IN THEIR LIFE ARE INVOLVED
IN DATING, MARRIAGE, SEX,
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RELATIONSHIPS, NOT IN
THAT ORDER NECESSARILY.
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AND WE'RE GOING TO
ADDRESS ALL OF THOSE THINGS.
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SO I THINK EVERYBODY LISTENING
RIGHT NOW CAN RECEIVE A BLESSING
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FROM OUR STUDY.
LET'S GET RIGHT INTO IT.
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QUESTION NUMBER 1: SECRETS TO
HAVING A HAPPY HOME: ESTABLISH
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YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME. NOW
YOU KNOW THE BIBLE TELLS US
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THAT MARRIAGE IS
PART OF GOD'S PLAN.
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ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS THAT THE
LORD DID IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN
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WAS HE ESTABLISHED MARRIAGE,
THE INSTITUTION MALE AND FEMALE.
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GOD SAID, "IT IS NOT GOOD
THAT A MAN SHOULD BE ALONE."
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ALL THE COWS HAD A BULL AND ALL
OF THE ANIMALS HAD THEIR MATES,
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BUT ADAM HAD NO HELPMEET.
AND SO GOD CREATED A HELPMEET
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FOR HIM. AND I
HEARD ONE PREACHER SAY,
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"THAT WAS NOT TO
HELP MEET EXPENSES."
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SHE WAS TO BE A HELPER FOR
HIM. THEN GOD SAID, "A MAN SHALL
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LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND
CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE, AND THEY
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BECOME ONE FLESH."
THE FAMILY UNIT IS THE
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FOUNDATION FOR
EVERY CULTURE IN SOCIETY.
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WHEN THE FAMILY UNIT CRUMBLES,
WHEN IT ERODES BECAUSE OF MORAL
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DECAY, THE WHOLE CULTURE IS
GOING TO FALL. MARK MY WORDS.
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WHEN WE LOSE RESPECT, WHEN THE
SACRED INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE
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IS NOT RESPECTED, THE WHOLE
CULTURE IS GOING TO BE SUFFERING
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AS A RESULT OF THAT.
NOW ONE OF THE THINGS THAT
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SOMETIMES CAUSES A PROBLEM IS A
YOUNG COUPLE, OR AN OLD COUPLE,
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WHEN THEY BEGIN A NEW FAMILY
UNIT, THEY NEED TO HAVE FREEDOM
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TO MAKE THESE
ADJUSTMENTS BY THEMSELVES.
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IT CAN SOMETIMES BE VERY
DIFFICULT WHEN LOVING AND
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CONCERNED PARENTS,
PARENTS-IN-LAW, THE IN-LAWS AND
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OUTLAWS START TO MOVE IN
AND LIVE WITH THEM, BECAUSE I'LL
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TELL YOU WHAT HAPPENS.
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WHEN TWO PEOPLE GET MARRIED,
ISN'T IT INTERESTING SOMEONE
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NAMED BATCHELOR IS SHARING ABOUT
MARRIAGE WITH YOU RIGHT NOW?
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BUT THERE ARE SO MANY
ADJUSTMENTS TO TAKE PLACE THAT
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IF YOU'VE GOT THE OUTSIDE
INFLUENCE OF NOT ONLY HAVING TO
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GET USED TO YOUR NEW WIFE
OR YOUR NEW HUSBAND, BUT THEIR
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FAMILY TO BOOT, IT
REALLY ADDS A LOT OF PRESSURE.
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AND WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE
STATISTICS OF FAILED MARRIAGES,
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A LOT OF THESE FAILURES COME
BECAUSE OF OUTSIDE INFLUENCE OF
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MEDDLING RELATIVES. AMEN?
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SO ESTABLISH
YOUR OWN PRIVATE HOME.
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NUMBER 2:
CONTINUE YOUR COURTSHIP.
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HOW MANY, ESPECIALLY THE LADIES,
WILL SAY, "WELL, HE WASN'T LIKE
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THIS WHEN WE WERE DATING.
WHEN WE WERE DATING HE WAS
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CONSTANTLY, YOU KNOW,
BRINGING ME FLOWERS AND CALLING.
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AND WE'D JUST SIT ON
THE PHONE FOR ENDLESS HOURS.
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AND WHEN WE HAD NOTHING TO
SAY WE'D LISTEN TO EACH OTHER
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BREATHE. AND NOW
WHEN HE CALLS, HE JUST
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WANTS TO KNOW, 'ARE YOU
ALIVE? ARE THE KIDS ALIVE?
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GOODBYE.'" YOU
KNOW AND IT'S JUST,
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EVERYTHING'S CHANGED. WELL, LET
ME TELL YOU SOMETHING LADIES.
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MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT ONLY
DIFFERENT AS FAR AS GENDER; WE
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ARE DIFFERENT AS FAR AS
THE WAY OUR BRAINS OPERATE.
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I'VE HEARD THAT LADIES ARE
DIFFERENT IN THE RESPECT THAT
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THEY USE BOTH SIDES OF
THEIR BRAIN IN CONCERT.
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MEN THINK MOSTLY--HELP
ME. IS IT THE LEFT OR RIGHT?
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I FORGET. LEFT
SIDE OF THE BRAIN.
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WOMEN INTERACT WITH BOTH SIDES.
THE EMOTIONS AND THE FACTS.
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MEN ARE MORE TASK-ORIENTED AND
FACT-ORIENTED IN THEIR THINKING.
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MEN THINK IN TERMS OF HEADLINES.
WHAT ARE THE HEADLINES?
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THE LADIES WANT TO
KNOW WHAT'S THE FINE PRINT?
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NOW I REALLY WISH KAREN WAS
HERE RIGHT NOW AS I SHARE THIS
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PRESENTATION WITH YOU. SHE
PROBABLY HAS SOME THINGS TO
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SHARE HERSELF. IT MAY
BE BETTER SHE'S NOT HERE.
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BUT WE'LL CALL. YOU
KNOW, I REALLY MISS HER AND
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SO WE'RE CALLING
EVERY SINGLE DAY.
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I THINK THERE'S ONLY BEEN ONE
DAY THAT WE FAILED TO TALK TO
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EACH OTHER SINCE I'VE BEEN HERE.
AND I'LL CALL AND GO, "ARE YOU
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OKAY? ARE THE KIDS OKAY?
IS THE HOUSE STILL THERE?"
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AND SHE'LL SAY,
"YES, EVERYTHING'S FINE."
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THEN SHE'LL SAY,
"SO WHAT DID YOU DO?"
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YOU KNOW, AND SHE'LL
START TELLING ME ABOUT WHAT
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SHE COOKED AND WHERE SHE
SHOPPED AND WHAT HAPPENED.
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AND SHE WANTS TO
EXPERIENCE THE CONVERSATION.
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YOU KNOW, AND THE MAN JUST
WANTS TO GET THE HEADLINES.
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SHE WANTS THE FINE PRINT.
WHEN A MAN IS DATING, HE'S
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USING BOTH SIDES OF HIS BRAIN.
AND, YOU KNOW, HE ALL OF THE
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SUDDEN SOMETHING KICKS
IN. ONCE HE SAYS, "I DO,"
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THAT SHUTS OFF. AND HE
DOESN'T NEED IT ANYMORE.
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HE SAYS, "I HAVE
CONQUERED THE TASK OF MARRIAGE.
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IT'S NOT NECESSARY ANYMORE."
AND LADIES, BE PATIENT.
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MEN, IT IS NOT NATURAL FOR THEM.
IT TAKES AN ENORMOUS EFFORT FOR
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HIM TO COMMUNICATE THE WAY THAT
YOU COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER.
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LET ME GIVE YOU AN ILLUSTRATION
OF HOW DIFFERENT THEY ARE.
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IF YOU TAKE A GYMNASIUM AND YOU
SET UP 50 CHAIRS IN A GREAT, BIG
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GYMNASIUM, AND YOU SET MEN
IN THE CHAIRS, THEY'RE VERY
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COMFORTABLE, EVEN THOUGH THEY'RE
ALL SPREAD OUT WITH 15 FEET
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AROUND THEM, BECAUSE
THEY ARE TERRITORIAL.
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THEY SAY, "I'VE GOT MY
TERRITORY. I'M ALRIGHT."
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THEY WANT TO KNOW, "WHAT
IS MY SPACE? WHAT DO I OWN?
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WHAT DO I CONTROL?" AND
THEN THEY'RE COMFORTABLE.
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YOU PUT LADIES IN A SITUATION
LIKE THAT, WHEN THEY'RE SO FAR
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AWAY FROM THE OTHER LADIES
IN THE ROOM, THEY GET VERY
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UNCOMFORTABLE.
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YOU TAKE A BUNCH OF MEN
AND SQUEEZE 'EM ON A COUCH NEXT
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TO OTHER MEN, AND THEY LOOK DOWN
TO SEE, "AM I ON MY OWN CUSHION
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OR AM I SHARING A CUSHION
WITH THIS GUY? WE DON'T KNOW
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EACH OTHER THAT WELL." AND
THEY GET REAL UNCOMFORTABLE.
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YOU PUT A LOT OF LADIES IN
A SMALL ROOM LIKE THAT AND YOU
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GO IN THERE 10 MINUTES
LATER AND THEY'RE ALL SHARING
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THE MOST INTIMATE
SECRETS WITH THESE STRANGERS.
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YOU KNOW, THE BIBLE SAYS,
"HUSBANDS LOVE YOUR WIVES, EVEN
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AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH."
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ONE THING I NOTICE ABOUT JESUS,
GOD THE FATHER, SON, AND HOLY
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SPIRIT, THEY'RE NEVER TRYING
TO GET HAPPINESS FOR THEMSELVES,
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BUT JESUS AND GOD, THE FATHER,
SON, AND HOLY SPIRIT ARE ALWAYS
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GIVING THE GLORY AND
THE CREDIT TO THE OTHERS.
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GOD--JESUS IS ALWAYS
GLORIFYING THE FATHER.
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THE FATHER IS
ALWAYS GLORIFYING THE SON.
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THE SPIRIT IS ALWAYS GLORIFYING
THE FATHER AND THE SON.
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THAT'S THE
SECRET TO A HAPPY HOME.
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TRY TO OUT GIVE THE OTHER
PERSON. TRY TO OUT LOVE THEM.
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THE REASON SO MANY MARRIAGES
FAIL TODAY IS BECAUSE PEOPLE
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MARRY SOMEBODY BECAUSE
OF WHAT THEY DO FOR THEM.
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"I WANT YOU TO DO THIS
FOR ME AND BE THIS FOR ME."
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YOU'RE DOOMED TO FAIL.
STOP THINKING OF WHAT THAT
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PERSON IS GOING
TO BE AND DO FOR YOU.
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HUSBANDS, IF YOU TREAT YOUR WIFE
LIKE A QUEEN, SHE'LL TREAT YOU
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LIKE A KING. LADIES,
IF YOU TREAT HIM LIKE A
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KING, HE'LL TREAT YOU LIKE
A QUEEN. NUMBER 3: REMEMBER
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THAT GOD JOINED YOU IN MARRIAGE.
MARRIAGE IS NOT AN EXPERIMENT.
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SOME PEOPLE GET MARRIED SO OFTEN
IN OUR SOCIETY THAT THEY OUGHT
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TO SIGN THEIR CERTIFICATES,
"TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN."
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I MEAN PEOPLE ENTER INTO
MARRIAGES AND BECAUSE DIVORCE IS
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SO RAMPANT, FOLKS SAY, "WELL, IF
IT DOESN'T WORK OUT, I'LL JUST
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FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND DO IT
AGAIN." IF YOU'RE A CHRISTIAN,
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THAT'S NOT AN OPTION.
YOU CAN'T THINK THAT WAY.
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MARRIAGE IS A
DIVINE INSTITUTION.
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THE BIBLE SAYS,
"YOU BECOME ONE FLESH."
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AND I HAVE NOT YET SEEN A
DIVORCE WHERE PEOPLE DID NOT
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TEAR FROM LIMB
TO LIMB ETERNALLY.
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NUMBER 4: GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS.
DON'T LET YOUR SENSES TRAP YOU.
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NOW THIS WOULD BE NOT ONLY FOR
THOSE THAT ARE IN MARRIAGE, BUT
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THOSE THAT ARE DATING. A
LOT OF PEOPLE GET INTO TROUBLE
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WHEN THEY'RE DATING BECAUSE
THEY'RE NOT CONTROLLING THEIR
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THINKING. LET'S
TALK FOR A MINUTE
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ABOUT SEX. SEX
HAPPENS IN THE MIND.
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A LOT OF PEOPLE THINK THAT
SEX IS THE RESULT OF WHAT'S
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HAPPENING BELOW THE WAIST.
NO, IT REALLY HAPPENS HERE.
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SUCCESS AS A CHRISTIAN
BEGINS WITH BEING PURE IN HEART.
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THAT'S TALKING ABOUT AS
A MAN THINKS IN HIS HEART.
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YOU CANNOT BE IN THE KINGDOM,
"BLESSED ARE THE PURE IN HEART.
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THEY WILL SEE GOD."
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ONE OF THE THINGS YOU'VE GOT TO
DO WHEN YOU BECOME A CHRISTIAN
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IS ASK THE HOLY SPIRIT
TO CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS.
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AND HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE
GOTTEN IN TROUBLE DATING AND IN
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MARRIAGE BECAUSE THEY WERE
NOT LETTING THE HOLY SPIRIT TO
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CONTROL THEIR THOUGHTS?
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AND THEY ALLOW THE MIND
TO WANDER IN FORBIDDEN ZONES.
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MAKE UP YOUR MIND IN
ADVANCE THAT SOME THINGS ARE NOT
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ADMISSIBLE. AND AS
SOON AS THE DEVIL BEGINS
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TO PLANT FORBIDDEN SUGGESTIONS,
PUT THEM OUT OF YOUR MIND.
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A MAN IS ATTRACTED TO CERTAIN
CURVES IN A WOMAN'S FIGURE.
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THAT'S WHY THEY
CALL CORVETTES SEXY.
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AND GUITARS ARE SO
POPULAR. IT'S THE CURVES.
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WOMEN OUGHT TO DRESS IN SUCH A
WAY THAT EVERYTHING IS A LITTLE
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HIGH ENOUGH, LOW ENOUGH AND LOSE
ENOUGH SO THAT WHAT A MAN SEES
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WHEN HE LOOKS AT YOU IS
NOT ALL THE CURVES. AMEN?
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I THINK CHRISTIANS--THE BIBLE
SAYS IT'S A SIN FOR A MAN TO
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LOOK ON THE OPPOSITE SEX
IN LUST. DO WE ALL AGREE?
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IS IT A SIN FOR A WOMAN TO DRESS
DELIBERATELY IN SUCH A WAY AS TO
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GET MEN TO LOOK? IF A
MAN SEES AN ATTRACTIVE,
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YOUNG GIRL WITH A GOOD FIGURE
WALKING ACROSS THE STREET, IN A
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BIKINI, HE WILL AUTOMATICALLY
LOOK. UNLESS HE ASKS THE HOLY
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SPIRIT--AND YOU KNOW,
INCIDENTALLY GUYS, IF YOU FIRST
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NOTICE THAT, IT'S NOT A SIN;
IT'S WHEN YOU CONTINUE TO DWELL
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UPON THE SUBJECT, IT
TURNS INTO A SIN. AMEN?
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YOU CANNOT PREVENT THE BIRDS
FROM FLYING OVER YOUR HEAD.
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BUT YOU CAN PREVENT THEM
FROM MAKING A NEST IN YOUR HAIR.
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HAVING A VISUAL OBSERVATION
IS DIFFERENT FROM HAVING AN
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IMAGINATION THAT
GETS CARRIED AWAY.
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A MAN WILL AUTOMATICALLY
LOOK AT SOMETHING LIKE THAT.
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AND SO THAT'S WHEN HE NEEDS TO
PRAY THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL HELP
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HIM REFOCUS HIS ATTENTION BEFORE
HE STARTS DELVING INTO THE
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FORBIDDEN ZONE OF COMMITTING
ADULTERY IN HIS MIND. AMEN?
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AND SO YOU'VE GOT TO
KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS PURE.
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NOT ONLY WHEN IT COMES TO
THAT, BUT SOMETIMES WHEN YOU'RE
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DATING, THE
THOUGHTS LEAD TO ACTIONS.
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AND THE ACTIONS
LEAD TO REACTIONS.
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A LOT OF PEOPLE GET IN TROUBLE
WHEN THEY'RE DATING, BECAUSE
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THEY DON'T HAVE A PLAN.
KEEP YOUR MIND BUSY DOING GOOD
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THINGS AND YOU WON'T START
THINKING UP OTHER THINGS TO DO.
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GOD DESIGNED--GOT REAL QUIET
IN HERE ALL OF THE SUDDEN--GOD
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DESIGNED ONE MAN, ONE
WOMAN, ONE RELATIONSHIP.
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AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY
ABOUT YOUR IMAGINATION WHEN IT
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HAPPENS ACCORDING TO GOD'S PLAN.
YOUNG PEOPLE WHO THINK, "WELL,
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WE'LL PROBABLY
GET MARRIED LATER."
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AND THEY
SACRIFICE THEIR CONVICTIONS.
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AND THEN THE RELATIONSHIP
AND THE DATING BREAKS OFF.
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AND THEY'VE GONE THROUGH TWO OR
THREE OR FOUR OR MORE OF THESE
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FAILED DATING RELATIONSHIPS
WHERE THEY'RE LIVING WITH
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PEOPLE. IF YOU
WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT A
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POTENTIAL, FUTURE HUSBAND OR
WIFE IS LIKE, YOU DON'T FIND OUT
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IN THE BEDROOM. SHARE A
CHECKBOOK, NOT A BED, IF
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YOU WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT
IT'S GOING TO BE LIKE. AMEN?
00:11:52.54\00:11:55.81
YOU KNOW THE NUMBER ONE REASON
FIRST MARRIAGES FAIL IN THE
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FIRST TWO YEARS IS FINANCES.
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ONE OF THE MAIN MARRIAGES SECOND
MARRIAGES FAIL IS STEPCHILDREN.
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BUT FINANCES, VERY FEW MARRIAGES
FAIL BECAUSE THE PLUMBING ISN'T
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WORKING. DON'T
WORRY; IT'S GONNA WORK.
00:12:11.66\00:12:14.83
THE CHECKBOOK MAY NOT WORK.
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SHE MIGHT BE A SPENDAHOLIC
OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT.
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SEE IF YOU CAN
SHARE A CHECKBOOK FIRST.
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KEEP CHRIST THE
CENTER OF YOUR HOME.
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JESUS SAID, "CAN TWO WALK
TOGETHER UNLESS THEY'RE AGREED?"
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SOME MARRIAGES JUST DO NOT
WORK OUT VERY WELL BECAUSE ONE'S
00:12:29.94\00:12:38.89
GOING THIS WAY AND
ONE'S GOING THIS WAY.
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IF JESUS IS THE DESTINATION
FOR BOTH PARTIES, YOU'RE
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AUTOMATICALLY
MOVING TOWARDS CHRIST.
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SOME FAMILIES WILL PRAY OVER
THEIR FOOD AT MEALS, BUT THEY
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DON'T PRAY TOGETHER
AS HUSBAND AND WIFE.
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IF A HUSBAND AND A WIFE
ARE CHRISTIAN AND THEY'RE NOT
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PRAYING TOGETHER, I
QUESTION THEIR CHRISTIANITY.
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KAREN AND I GO TO SLEEP EVERY
NIGHT--AND I'M NOT SETTING US UP
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AS THE EXAMPLE, I'M JUST LETTING
YOU INTO OUR FAMILY A LITTLE
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BIT. WE HAVE PRAYER TOGETHER.
00:13:01.81\00:13:04.58
WE TAKE HANDS WHILE WE'RE
LAYING IN BED THERE TOGETHER.
00:13:04.61\00:13:07.22
AND WE HAVE PRAYER. WE PRAY
ABOUT THE THINGS OF THE DAY.
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WE COMMIT OUR LIVES TO THE
LORD. WE HAVE PERSONAL PRAYER.
00:13:11.25\00:13:14.22
AND WE ALSO PRAY TOGETHER.
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YOU'LL FIND OUT IT REALLY
BONDS YOU TOGETHER WHEN YOU KEEP
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RE-PRIORITIZING YOUR
FAMILY WITH JESUS IN THE MIDDLE.
00:13:18.93\00:13:22.70
IF JESUS IS YOUR DESTINATION,
YOU WILL AUTOMATICALLY CONTINUE
00:13:22.73\00:13:25.47
TO MOVE TOWARDS EACH OTHER,
WHICH BRINGS ME TO ANOTHER VERY,
00:13:25.50\00:13:28.67
VERY IMPORTANT
POINT. EVERYBODY LISTENING?
00:13:28.70\00:13:32.57
IF YOU'RE NOT MARRIED, DO NOT
MARRY AN UNBELIEVER IF YOU'RE A
00:13:32.61\00:13:36.48
BELIEVER. SAY AMEN. YOU
DO NOT GRAB A RATTLESNAKE BY
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ITS HEAD. YOU DO
NOT PUT BLACK WIDOWS IN
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YOUR CLOTHES HAMPER.
YOU DO NOT DRINK STRYCHNINE.
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AND YOU DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE WHO
IS NOT OF THE SAME DENOMINATION.
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AND YOU KNOW WHAT? EVERY
PASTOR KNOWS THAT THIS IS
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A PROBLEM. MOST
PASTORS, A BAPTIST, WILL
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NOT MARRY ONE OF HIS
MEMBERS TO A CATHOLIC.
00:14:01.14\00:14:03.30
CATHOLICS WILL NOT MARRY
THEIR PEOPLE TO METHODISTS.
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IT CAUSES TERRIBLE
PROBLEMS FOR THE CHILDREN.
00:14:05.71\00:14:08.58
THEY'RE GETTING PULLED IN SO
MANY DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS, AND
00:14:08.61\00:14:10.51
THEY'RE CONFUSED. MARRY
SOMEONE OF THE SAME FAITH.
00:14:10.55\00:14:13.82
NOW A LOT OF YOU OUT THERE
ARE GOING, "UH, I'M ALREADY IN A
00:14:13.85\00:14:16.42
SITUATION LIKE THIS.
WHAT DO I DO?" TOUGH. NO.
00:14:16.45\00:14:23.22
DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO
FIND COMMON GROUND AND LOVE EACH
00:14:23.26\00:14:28.80
OTHER WITH THE
COMMON GROUND YOU HAVE.
00:14:28.83\00:14:32.27
DO NOT SACRIFICE
PRINCIPLES OF TRUTH.
00:14:32.30\00:14:35.47
IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO AN
UNBELIEVER, MAKE SURE THAT THE
00:14:35.50\00:14:38.11
CHILDREN HAVE EXPOSURE TO CHRIST
AND THE TRUTH AND CHRISTIANITY.
00:14:38.14\00:14:42.98
SOMETIMES IT
CAN BE THEIR SAVING.
00:14:43.01\00:14:44.81
SOME PEOPLE ENTER INTO MARRIAGES
THINKING, "WELL, I KNOW HE'S NOT
00:14:44.85\00:14:47.58
A BELIEVER NOW, BUT HE'S
SURE CUTE. AND HE'S SURE NICE.
00:14:47.62\00:14:50.22
AND I THINK I'LL CONVERT
HIM AFTERWARDS." OH, FAMOUS LAST
00:14:50.25\00:14:53.82
WORDS. YOU KNOW HOW MANY TIMES
I'VE HEARD PEOPLE SAY THAT?
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AND WHAT OFTEN HAPPENS IS THE
UNBELIEVING SPOUSE CONVERTS THE
00:14:55.96\00:14:58.53
BELIEVER TO BE AN UNBELIEVER.
AND THEY STOP GOING TO CHURCH.
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VERY DANGEROUS. YOU
KNOW, SAMSON, HE WAS INTO MIXED
00:15:04.10\00:15:07.20
MARRIAGES. YOU READ HIS STORY?
OH, IT BACKFIRED BIG TIME.
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FIND PEOPLE OF YOUR OWN FAITH.
AND WHEN, WHEN SAMSON SAID TO
00:15:14.61\00:15:17.28
HIS PARENTS, "OH,
BUT I WANT TO MARRY HER."
00:15:17.31\00:15:19.41
THEY SAY, "CAN'T YOU FIND
SOMEONE OF YOUR OWN FAITH?"
00:15:19.45\00:15:21.48
HE SAID, "OH, BUT SHE
PLEASETH ME WELL." I WANT HER.
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SHE'S PRETTY. SHE'S ATTRACTIVE.
AND HOW MANY YOUNG MEN GET INTO
00:15:24.32\00:15:27.12
A MARRIAGE WITH A PRETTY,
YOUNG THING BECAUSE OF LOOKS?
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AND THEY'RE JUST
LOOKING ON THE OUTSIDE.
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IT'S LIKE BUYING A
HOUSE 'CAUSE OF THE PAINT.
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IT'S GONNA FADE
AND PEEL SOMEDAY. AMEN?
00:15:36.73\00:15:41.67
SOMETIMES THOSE HOUSES ADD
ON, TOO, AS THE YEARS GO BY.
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NUMBER 7, I ALREADY TOUCHED
ON THIS A LITTLE BIT: PRAY
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TOGETHER. AND
YOU'LL FIND IT REALLY BONDS
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YOUR LIVES WHEN YOU
SPEND TIME IN FAMILY WORSHIP.
00:15:56.42\00:15:59.92
PRAY WITH THE
CHILDREN IN THE MORNING.
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NUMBER 8, VERY IMPORTANT: AGREE
THAT DIVORCE IS NOT THE ANSWER.
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WHEN YOU FIRST ENTER INTO A
MARRIAGE, MAKE IT CLEAR THAT
00:16:09.80\00:16:14.27
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION.
IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS AS
00:16:14.30\00:16:17.81
YOU'RE--YOU KNOW A LOT OF YOUNG
PEOPLE, THEY'LL SET A DATE FOR A
00:16:17.84\00:16:20.58
MARRIAGE. AND AS
THEY'RE MOVING TOWARDS
00:16:20.61\00:16:21.88
THAT DATE,
THEY'RE UNEASY. CANCEL IT.
00:16:21.91\00:16:24.78
I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE STANDING
THERE WITH $10,000 WORTH OF
00:16:24.81\00:16:27.88
WEDDING PREPARATIONS.
YOU'VE GOT ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND
00:16:27.92\00:16:30.09
FAMILY THERE. YOU'RE
IN FRONT OF THE MINISTER.
00:16:30.12\00:16:32.92
YOU'RE GETTING
READY TO SAY, "I DO."
00:16:32.95\00:16:34.59
IF YOU KNOW THAT'S NOT THE RIGHT
PERSON, THEN YOU SAY, "I DON'T."
00:16:34.62\00:16:38.73
IT'S EASIER THEN TO PAY $10,000
THAN TO PAY ALIMONY LATER ON.
00:16:38.76\00:16:46.47
DO NOT MAKE A MISTAKE OF GOING
INTO A MARRIAGE IF YOU'RE NOT
00:16:46.50\00:16:49.17
SURE THAT THIS IS THE
PERSON THAT GOD HAS LED YOU TO.
00:16:49.20\00:16:52.17
AMEN? YOU'VE
GOT TO BE VERY SURE.
00:16:52.21\00:16:54.48
IF YOU'RE NOT VERY SURE,
KEEP POSTPONING THE DATE.
00:16:54.51\00:16:57.41
YOU DON'T HAVE TO
RUSH INTO THESE THINGS.
00:16:57.45\00:17:00.12
A LOT OF FOLKS THINK, "OH,
I DON'T THINK I'LL BE ABLE TO
00:17:00.15\00:17:02.22
CONTROL MYSELF. I
DON'T KNOW IF I CAN WAIT THAT
00:17:02.25\00:17:04.49
LONG." THAT'S
ANOTHER REASON TO WAIT.
00:17:04.52\00:17:06.09
WAIT UNTIL YOU KNOW
YOU CAN CONTROL YOURSELF.
00:17:06.12\00:17:08.42
NUMBER 9, KEEP THE
FAMILY CIRCLE CLOSED TIGHTLY.
00:17:08.46\00:17:14.93
PROVERBS 11:13, "A FRIEND
KNOWS HOW TO CONCEAL A MATTER."
00:17:14.93\00:17:22.17
YOU OUGHT TO BE ABLE TO
SHARE THINGS IN YOUR FAMILY THAT
00:17:22.20\00:17:24.27
AREN'T IN THE
STREET THE NEXT DAY.
00:17:24.31\00:17:26.98
SOME WOMEN WONDER WHY THEIR
HUSBANDS SEEM A LITTLE DISTANT.
00:17:27.01\00:17:31.18
AND THE HUSBANDS FIND OUT THAT
ANYTHING THEY TELL THEIR WIVES,
00:17:31.21\00:17:33.52
THEIR WIVES THEN
TELL THEIR GIRLFRIENDS.
00:17:33.55\00:17:35.92
AND ALL OF THE SUDDEN THAT
HUSBAND GETS THE IDEA, "SHE'S
00:17:35.95\00:17:38.79
CLOSER TO THEM THAN
ME. I CANNOT TRUST HER."
00:17:38.82\00:17:41.79
IT VIOLATES THE FAITH AND THE
SANCTITY IN THAT RELATIONSHIP.
00:17:41.82\00:17:44.99
AND I DON'T KEEP
SECRETS FROM MY WIFE.
00:17:45.03\00:17:48.36
PEOPLE WILL TELL ME THINGS.
AND THEY'LL SAY, "NOW I'M GONNA
00:17:48.40\00:17:51.20
TELL YOU SOMETHING, BUT
DON'T TELL ANYONE ELSE."
00:17:51.23\00:17:52.70
AND I SAY, "NOW MY
WIFE AND I ARE ONE FLESH.
00:17:52.73\00:17:54.57
AND I'M GONNA TELL
HER. I HOPE THAT'S OKAY."
00:17:54.60\00:17:56.67
AND I CAN TRUST MY WIFE.
I'LL SAY, "KAREN, THIS IS
00:17:56.71\00:17:58.77
SOMETHING THAT
SOMEONE SHARED WITH ME.
00:17:58.81\00:18:00.28
WE NEED TO KEEP IT
JUST AMONG OURSELVES."
00:18:00.31\00:18:02.48
BUT I GOTTA HAVE
SOMEONE I CAN TALK TO.
00:18:02.51\00:18:04.41
AND I CAN TRUST MY WIFE.
00:18:04.45\00:18:05.81
YOU'VE GOT TO HAVE
TRUST WITH EACH OTHER.
00:18:05.85\00:18:07.98
SOON AS YOU START HIDING THINGS
FROM ONE ANOTHER, THEN YOUR
00:18:08.02\00:18:11.29
TRUST BEGINS TO DETERIORATE.
BUT FAMILY THINGS, EVERY
00:18:11.32\00:18:15.39
FAMILY'S GOT ITS LITTLE
IDIOSYNCRASIES AND SECRETS.
00:18:15.42\00:18:18.59
KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY. AMEN?
NUMBER 10, GOD DESCRIBES LOVE;
00:18:18.63\00:18:24.50
MAKE IT YOUR DAILY
GOAL TO MEASURE UP.
00:18:24.53\00:18:27.20
YOU KNOW, IT TELLS US IN 1
CORINTHIANS 13, YOU OUGHT TO
00:18:27.24\00:18:29.87
READ THIS, NOT NECESSARILY
NOW, BUT MARK IT IN YOUR BIBLE.
00:18:29.90\00:18:32.91
GOD'S DEFINITION OF LOVE: "LOVE
IS FORBEARING AND KIND; LOVE
00:18:32.94\00:18:36.98
KNOWS NO JEALOUSY; LOVE DOES
NOT BRAG, IT IS NOT CONCEITED.
00:18:37.01\00:18:41.08
SHE IS NOT UNMANNERLY, NOR
SELFISH, NOR IRRITABLE, NOR
00:18:41.12\00:18:44.59
MINDFUL OF WRONGS; SHE DOES
NOT REJOICE IN INJUSTICE, BUT
00:18:44.62\00:18:48.72
JOYFULLY SIDES WITH THE TRUTH;
SHE CAN OVERLOOK FAULTS, SHE IS
00:18:48.76\00:18:52.99
FULL OF TRUST, FULL OF
HOPE, FULL OF ENDURANCE.
00:18:53.03\00:18:56.46
LOVE IS PATIENT."
NUMBER 11, REMEMBER CRITICISM
00:18:56.50\00:19:02.27
AND NAGGING DESTROY LOVE.
NOW, THIS IS ONE AREA, AND I
00:19:02.30\00:19:10.28
DON'T WANT TO OVER-GENERALIZE,
BUT SOME WOMEN WONDER WHY THE
00:19:10.31\00:19:15.12
MEN ARE OUT A LOT, AND THEY
DON'T SPEND ENOUGH TIME AT HOME.
00:19:15.15\00:19:19.49
THE MAN FEELS LIKE HE'S GETTING
BEAT UP WHENEVER HE COMES HOME.
00:19:19.52\00:19:22.29
SO THE NATURAL REACTION IS TO
PUT IT OFF AS LONG AS POSSIBLE.
00:19:22.32\00:19:25.59
MAKE SURE THAT YOU KNOW
HOW TO ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER.
00:19:25.63\00:19:31.07
YOU KNOW, YOU CAN
MAKE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE.
00:19:31.10\00:19:32.33
SOMETIMES A MAN WILL COME HOME
AND THE WIFE HAS BEEN WORKING
00:19:32.37\00:19:34.80
ALL DAY LONG, TAKING CARE OF THE
CHILDREN, COOKING THE FOOD, AND
00:19:34.84\00:19:38.47
JUST SLAVING UNDER ALL
KINDS OF ADVERSE CONDITIONS.
00:19:38.51\00:19:41.28
AND HE'LL NOTICE ONE THING
WRONG, INSTEAD OF PRAISING HER
00:19:41.31\00:19:44.48
FOR ALL THE
GOOD THAT SHE'S DONE.
00:19:44.51\00:19:45.78
MEN, I'LL TELL
YOU A LITTLE SECRET.
00:19:45.81\00:19:46.92
WHEN YOU COME HOME, LOOK
YOUR WIFE OVER REAL CAREFULLY.
00:19:46.95\00:19:50.49
SEE IF THERE'S ANY CHANGES.
00:19:50.52\00:19:52.59
YOU CAN KEEP OUT OF A LOT
OF TROUBLE IF YOU'LL NOTICE
00:19:52.62\00:19:54.69
SOMETHING LIKE A
NEW DRESS OR A HAIRCUT.
00:19:54.72\00:19:58.73
SOMETIMES KAREN WILL
SAY, "DO YOU NOTICE ANYTHING?"
00:19:58.76\00:20:01.80
AND I'LL SAY, "OH,
YOU GOT YOUR HAIR PERMED?"
00:20:01.83\00:20:04.07
SHE'LL SAY, "YEAH, LAST
MONTH. I CLEANED THE HOUSE."
00:20:04.10\00:20:07.37
AND SO, YOU KNOW, YOU
GOTTA REALLY BE OBSERVANT IS MY
00:20:07.40\00:20:12.37
ADVICE. BUT DON'T
CRITICIZE AND NAG.
00:20:12.41\00:20:17.41
A LOT OF MARRIAGES HAVE BEEN
DESTROYED, THEY'VE BEEN BURIED
00:20:17.45\00:20:19.98
BY LITTLE DIGS,
ONE SHOVEL AT A TIME.
00:20:20.02\00:20:23.82
NUMBER 12, DO NOT
OVERDO ANYTHING; BE TEMPERATE.
00:20:23.85\00:20:28.42
NOW, IN YOUR FAMILY
YOU CAN OVERDO WORK.
00:20:28.46\00:20:33.93
MEN, YOU LISTENING?
00:20:33.96\00:20:35.56
IN YOUR ZEAL FOR TRYING TO
PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY, YOU CAN
00:20:35.60\00:20:40.57
FIND OUT YOU'RE 50 YEARS
OLD, YOUR WIFE HAS NOW LEFT YOU
00:20:40.60\00:20:43.20
BECAUSE YOU HAD NO RELATIONSHIP.
THE KIDS ARE GROWN.
00:20:43.24\00:20:45.17
YOU GOT LOTS OF
MONEY AND NO FAMILY.
00:20:45.21\00:20:47.81
YOU CAN BECOME A WORKAHOLIC.
AND I HAVE TO GUARD THAT.
00:20:47.84\00:20:51.68
I'M VERY BUSY AND KAREN HAS TO
KEEP REMINDING ME, "IF YOU SAVE
00:20:51.71\00:20:54.02
THE WORLD AND LOSE YOUR
FAMILY, WHAT GOOD IS IT?"
00:20:54.05\00:20:56.52
SO I HAVE TO KEEP SCHEDULING
TIME JUST FOR THE FAMILY.
00:20:56.55\00:21:00.69
13: RESPECT EACH OTHER'S
PERSONAL RIGHTS AND PRIVACIES.
00:21:00.72\00:21:04.79
NOW, THOUGH I DO NOT KEEP
SECRETS FROM KAREN, SHE REALIZES
00:21:04.83\00:21:08.36
THAT I WANT TO HONOR THAT DOUG
HAS CERTAIN THINGS THAT ARE HIS.
00:21:08.40\00:21:12.40
I HAVE MY DESK. SHE'S
FREE TO GO IN MY DESK, I
00:21:12.43\00:21:14.67
DON'T LOCK IT, BUT SHE
DOESN'T. I HAVE MY MAIL.
00:21:14.70\00:21:17.07
I DON'T CARE IF SHE OPENS MY
MAIL, BUT WHEN WE GO THROUGH THE
00:21:17.11\00:21:18.91
MAIL, ANYTHING THAT HAS MY NAME
ON IT, SHE PUTS IN FRONT OF ME,
00:21:18.94\00:21:21.78
THAT I MIGHT READ IT.
SAME THING: I PUT HER STUFF,
00:21:21.81\00:21:24.88
SHE'S GOT MAIL AND CATALOGS THAT
COME, I'D LIKE TO THROW IN THE
00:21:24.91\00:21:28.18
GARBAGE, BUT I PUT THEM THERE
ON THE DESK FOR HER TO LOOK AT.
00:21:28.22\00:21:31.79
YOU'VE GOT TO
RESPECT EACH OTHER'S PLACE.
00:21:31.82\00:21:34.19
AMEN? A LOT OF
MARRIAGES--I KNOW A
00:21:34.22\00:21:37.09
MAN, HE IS SO
CONTROLLING WITH HIS WIFE.
00:21:37.13\00:21:39.73
WHEN SHE GETS OFF THE PHONE, HE
PICKS UP THE PHONE AND PRESSES
00:21:39.76\00:21:42.10
REDIAL TO FIND OUT
WHO SHE'S TALKING TO.
00:21:42.13\00:21:44.47
AND IT JUST
DESTROYS THE RELATIONSHIP.
00:21:44.50\00:21:47.47
YOU NEED TO RESPECT
EACH OTHER'S PERSONAL RIGHTS.
00:21:47.50\00:21:51.67
NUMBER 14: BE CLEAN,
MODEST, ORDERLY, AND DUTIFUL.
00:21:51.71\00:21:57.68
NOW, YOU KNOW, WHEN I LIVED IN
A CAVE, I WANT TO LET YOU KNOW
00:21:57.71\00:22:00.48
RIGHT NOW, YOU CAN ASK KAREN
WHEN SHE GETS HERE, IT WAS THE
00:22:00.52\00:22:02.72
CLEANEST CAVE IN THE MOUNTAINS.
I WENT TO MILITARY SCHOOL WHEN I
00:22:02.75\00:22:05.72
WAS 5 AND AGAIN WHEN I WAS
11 TO 13, AND I'M VERY NEAT.
00:22:05.75\00:22:08.99
YOU GO LOOK WHERE I'M STAYING
RIGHT NOW; I GOT EVERYTHING IN
00:22:09.02\00:22:10.43
ITS PLACE. MATTER
OF FACT, KAREN THINKS
00:22:10.46\00:22:12.19
THAT I'M KOOKY
'CAUSE I'M SO NEAT.
00:22:12.23\00:22:15.86
BUT I THINK HUSBANDS OUGHT
TO HELP CLEAN. WASH THE DISHES.
00:22:15.90\00:22:21.57
I JUST MADE A LOT OF
FRIENDS ALL AROUND THE WORLD.
00:22:21.60\00:22:25.27
I HELP MAKE THE
BED EVERY MORNING.
00:22:25.31\00:22:27.01
KAREN AND I SLEEP IN IT
TOGETHER; I FIGURE WE CAN MAKE
00:22:27.04\00:22:28.88
IT TOGETHER. NOW IF
SHE STAYS IN BED WHEN I
00:22:28.91\00:22:30.68
GO TO WORK, IT'S UP TO HER.
SOMETIMES THE BABY KEEPS HER UP
00:22:30.71\00:22:33.31
AND SHE'S STILL IN BED.
BUT WE MAKE THE BED TOGETHER.
00:22:33.35\00:22:35.68
I WASH DISHES. I
HELP CLEAN THE HOUSE.
00:22:35.72\00:22:39.09
I CLEAN THE OFFICE.
I KNOW HOW TO VACUUM.
00:22:39.12\00:22:40.99
YOU KNOW, HUSBANDS, NOWHERE
IN THE BIBLE DOES IT SAY THIS IS
00:22:41.02\00:22:43.29
WOMAN'S WORK. AND I
THINK THAT EVERYBODY, YOU
00:22:43.32\00:22:46.73
KNOW, WE ALL NEED TO
WORK TOGETHER IN A FAMILY.
00:22:46.76\00:22:49.60
AND LADIES, YOU CAN PULL WEEDS.
YOU CAN WORK OUT IN THE GARDEN.
00:22:49.63\00:22:55.57
YOU CAN MOW THE LAWN. I
MEAN, YOU KNOW, SOMETIMES
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LADIES PLAY DUMB BECAUSE
THEY WANT THE MEN TO DO IT.
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THEY'RE NOT STUPID.
THEY'LL SAY, "I'D LIKE TO HANG A
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PICTURE RIGHT THERE." AND
THEN THEY'LL GO PUNCH A HOLE
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IN THE WALL WITH A HAMMER ON
PURPOSE KNOWING THE HUSBAND WILL
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NEVER ASK THEM TO
PICK UP A HAMMER AGAIN.
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AND THEY THINK WE'RE STUPID.
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DETERMINE TO
SPEAK SOFTLY AND KINDLY.
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YOU KNOW, RESPECT--WHY IS IT
THAT SOMETIMES PEOPLE RESPECT
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THEIR ENEMIES AND
NEGLECT THEIR SPOUSES?
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SOMETIMES WE'RE KINDER TO
STRANGERS THAN WE ARE TO OUR OWN
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FAMILY. YOU MIGHT
BE THINKING, "OH DOUG,
00:23:27.20\00:23:29.47
I DON'T KNOW HOW I CAN
STAY MARRIED TO THIS PERSON.
00:23:29.50\00:23:30.97
IT'S LIKE THEY'RE MY ENEMY."
WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT, FRIENDS?
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JESUS SAID, "LOVE YOUR ENEMY."
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SOME OF US ARE IN DIFFICULT
MARRIAGES BECAUSE JESUS IS
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HELPING YOU DEVELOP CHARACTER
FIT FOR HEAVEN. YOU HEAR THAT?
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YOU'RE THINKING, "IF I GET
OUT OF THIS MARRIAGE, EVERYTHING
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WILL BE ALRIGHT."
YOU'RE GONNA FIND YOURSELF IN
00:23:43.92\00:23:45.59
THE SAME SITUATION. BE
REASONABLE IN MONEY MATTERS.
00:23:45.62\00:23:50.89
I'VE TOLD YOU FINANCES ARE
THE DOWNFALL OF MANY MARRIAGES.
00:23:50.93\00:23:54.46
CONSULT ON BIG EXPENDITURES.
I DON'T GO OUT AND BUY A CAR AND
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SAY, "HONEY,
LOOK WHAT I BOUGHT."
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WE WORK TOGETHER
ON THE BIG EXPENSES.
00:24:01.00\00:24:02.80
KAREN KNOWS THAT SHE HAS A
CERTAIN REALM OF THINGS THAT SHE
00:24:02.84\00:24:05.17
BUYS FOR, YOU KNOW, HER
RESPONSIBILITIES WE'VE AGREED
00:24:05.21\00:24:07.61
ON. THERE'S
CERTAIN THINGS I BUY.
00:24:07.64\00:24:09.18
I DON'T HAVE TO GO CONSULT HER
IF I WANT TO GET A CLUB FOR THE
00:24:09.21\00:24:11.48
STEERING WHEEL. YOU
KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
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SO YOU HAVE TO HAVE A LITTLE
LATITUDE, BUT DON'T RUN UP BIG
00:24:13.82\00:24:15.78
BILLS THAT YOU'RE GOING TO
HAVE TO PAY TOGETHER WITHOUT
00:24:15.82\00:24:18.19
CONSULTING ONE ANOTHER.
THAT'S DISRESPECTFUL FOR SOMEONE
00:24:18.22\00:24:20.99
YOU LOVE. AND THEN
THE LAST QUESTION IS,
00:24:21.02\00:24:24.63
LET ME READ IT TO
YOU RIGHT OUT OF HERE.
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ARE YOU PRAYING THAT YOUR HOME
WILL BE A PLACE WHERE THE ANGELS
00:24:26.53\00:24:29.80
OF HEAVEN WILL FEEL
COMFORTABLE? IS YOUR ANSWER YES?
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GOD CAN WORK IN YOUR MARRIAGES
THAT YOU'RE PREPARING FOR IF
00:24:33.10\00:24:36.91
YOU'RE DATING NOW. OR YOU
MAY ALREADY BE IN A MARRIAGE.
00:24:36.94\00:24:39.77
IF YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE AGREE
YOUR HOUSE CAN BE A LITTLE BIT
00:24:39.81\00:24:43.68
OF HEAVEN ON
EARTH, BELIEVE IT OR NOT.
00:24:43.71\00:24:46.01
MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN.
SO IS THUNDER AND LIGHTENING.
00:24:46.05\00:24:49.78
THEY'LL BE A FEW STORMS
SOMETIMES, BUT YOU CAN RIDE OUT
00:24:49.82\00:24:52.82
THE STORMS WITH CHRIST'S GRACE.
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>>PAUL AND JESUS BOTH PREDICT
THAT THE CHURCH OF GOD BECOMES
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A FORCE AGAINST GOD.
>>THE RADICAL FAITH THAT JESUS
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TAUGHT HAD BECOME THE OFFICIAL
RELIGION OF THE EMPIRE THAT
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MURDERED HIM.
>>CHRISTIANITY WENT FROM BEING A
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MARGINALIZED SMALL GROUP TO NOW
HAVING INFLUENCE AT THE CENTER
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OF THE ROMAN EMPIRE.
>>THE SPEED WITH WHICH THE EARLY
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>>IN SIX DAYS GOD CREATED
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MILLIONS OF PEOPLE WORSHIP ON
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WHY DID GOD CREATE A DAY OF
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