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Doug Batchelor: If you want
your children to grow up and be
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honorable and serve God,
you must be honorable and have
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family worship.
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The whole idea of honoring your
father and mother is learned
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through the Word of God,
and it's implying that you're
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teaching the Word
of God in your family.
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Doug: We're in the midst of
a series, actually first time
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since I've been here,
that is dedicated solely to
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the Ten Commandments.
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And so today, we're actually on
the sixth presentation, but it's
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commandment number five.
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And we've just transferred from
the first table of stones over
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to the second table of stones.
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The message title is dealing
with honor in the family, Honor
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Within the Family.
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Now, in the Ten Commandments,
you've got--you know, I was
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gonna say something
really silly, like the Lord is
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brilliant, but it's
sort of obvious, isn't it?
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But it is brilliant the
way that God designed the Ten
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Commandments.
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On the first table, you've got
the relationship between man and
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God.
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It's the vertical relationship.
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The first commandment, if you
get the first commandment right,
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"Thou shall not have any other
Lord's before me," you will get
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all the other commandments on
this table right because if God
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is first in your life, then
you'll obey the way that you
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worship him, the day that
you worship him, the time, the
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method, his name, that'll all
be revered if you worship him
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supremely.
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Now, when you go to the
second table, what is the first
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commandment there?
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"Honor your father and mother."
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Now we're dealing with the
horizontal relationships in the
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remaining six commandments here.
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If you get this one, right,
if there--if things are right in
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the family, all the other
commandments would be right.
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If you've got good parents and
they're teaching their children
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good truth, you're not gonna
find in society that there are
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problems with the lying, and
adultery, and the coveting, and
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the killing, and
all these other things.
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It's when you don't get the
first one right that you have
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problem with all the rest.
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This commandment, probably
more than any other, is the
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foundation to the health and
success of any culture because
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the family is the most
basic unit of a society.
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And what we're talking about
is not just children obeying
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parents, we're talking about
parents living in an honorable
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way.
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And it's the relationship
between the parents, it's a
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relationship of the children and
the parents, and the parents and
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the children.
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It's really talking about honor
within the family, reverence and
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respect.
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And so, that's
our message today.
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It's based upon
this commandment.
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You can find it in your Bible,
of course, in Exodus 20, verse
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12, "Honor your father and your
mother, that your days may be
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long upon the land, which the
Lord your God is giving you."
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You know, in every culture, for
there to be a strong society,
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one of the first things
they need to do is they need to
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understand that the authority
for the children is not the
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state, it's the parents.
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This idea that it takes a
village and that we all raise
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each other's children, it
sounds really nice but no.
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In order for a culture to be
healthy, we need to understand
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that a family unit,
the responsibility of those
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children, belongs, first and
foremost, to those who brought
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them into the world, I'm
talking about biologically.
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They are made in the image of
their parents, just as we are in
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the image of God, that
responsibility rests with the
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parents.
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That must be respected by
the state, by the government.
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And to some extent, you
know, when children are minors,
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they're under the authority
under of their parents, there
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still is an
element of that respect.
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But more and more, we're finding
that the government's acting
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like we're the ones who are
gonna tell you how to raise your
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children, instead of the
parents having that decision.
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Something else, I don't know if
you caught it, it said, "Honor
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your father and your mother."
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There is an implied truth there
that a family, according to
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God's design, is not a father
and a father, or a mother and a
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mother, but it is a
father and a mother.
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That's God's plan.
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And in the same way on the first
table of stones, God is saying,
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"Look, I'm the one
who saved you, I made you.
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And so, I want
you to worship me."
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At the foundation of our
relationships with each other,
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it begins with
honoring your parents
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because parents are a
child's first concept of God.
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They really
represent God to the children.
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You think about it, God
is the one who created us,
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he sustains us.
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He cares for us, he provides us,
he forgives us, he cleanses us.
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And for a child, who is God
to that child as they're growing
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up?
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I need to issue
a disclaimer here.
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I realized, as I talk about this
subject, that, you know, we live
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with all kinds of
strange circumstances.
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And some of you
maybe have been adopted.
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This is an
uncomfortable subject.
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Some of you maybe grew up in a
home with just a single parent.
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Some of you maybe you are test
two babies, and you're raised by
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some corporation.
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I don't know, we're all kinds of
different people out there, and
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there's exceptions.
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So, what we're talking about
here is the ideal, does everyone
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appreciate that?
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This is the ideal, and I
know all of us have different
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deviations of that
ideal in our families.
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And some of us, we were
raised by our mother and our
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stepfather, or whatever.
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But so we're talking about the
idea, and I understand that I
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just want you to wink at
the areas where you realize it
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doesn't perfectly
fit your situation.
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But for the normal child, their
first concept of God is the
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parents.
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Matter of fact, it's interesting
the evolution that children go
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through.
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When they're real little,
the parents can do everything.
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They look at their parents in
wide-eyed wonder and they think
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they're God.
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They fear them, they respect
them, they love them, they look
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to them, they don't
want to be away from them.
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They get a little older, you
know, and the kid'll say, "My
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dad's the
strongest dad in the world."
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And then they get a little
older, they get to be about 12
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and they say, "Well,
they know almost everything."
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And then they get to be about
14, they say, "They don't know
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very much."
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And then they graduate high
school and start college and
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they think, "They
don't know anything."
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And then they get to
25 and something changes.
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They call and ask
for occasional advice.
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And then they get to be about
30, and they got kids of their
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own and their respect just
begins to soar, and they start
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to understand.
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And then they get to be about
60 and they think, "You know, I
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wish I could talk to them again,
and I would have asked them more
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questions."
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But it's like it goes from
this believing everything, to
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believing nothing, to
believing everything again.
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It's kind of strange.
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Have you observed that?
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But they represent our first
concept and that's why it's
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important for children
to honor their parents.
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It's very important for
children--for parents to live
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honorable lives because your
child's concept of God is gonna
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largely come
from your influence.
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Now, maybe I should take a
moment and talk about, what does
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the word honor mean?
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When we say honor our father
and our mother, to honor in the
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Hebrew, to honor means to make
weighty, to give gravity and
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importance to their, their
being, to promote, to glorify,
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to boast about, to
revere, that's the Hebrew.
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In Greek it's the word timoreo
and it means to prize, to honor,
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to value, also to revere.
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Honor your father and mother.
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By the way, that commandment
we read it clearly in Hebrew and
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clearly in Greek, there's
no question about what it means
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because we've got it coming
from the words of Jesus and from
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the Old Testament example.
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Proverbs 10:1, the Proverbs
of Solomon, "A wise son makes a
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glad father, but a foolish
son is the grief of his mother."
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Proverbs 15:20, "A wise
son makes a father glad, but a
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foolish man
despises his mother."
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Proverbs 19:26, "He who
mistreats his father and chases
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away his mother is a son
who causes shame and brings
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reproach."
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All through the Bible, the
principle about revering, and
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honoring, and respecting your
father and mother is a pretty
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basic principle.
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Doug: Mary, the mother
of Jesus, is one of the most
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fascinating, yet misunderstood,
characters in Bible history.
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A godly woman entrusted
with one of the most awesome
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responsibilities of any mother,
but how are we to understand
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that role and what does
it mean to Christians today?
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Does the Bible say that Mary
became a goddess that should be
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worshiped?
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Do the Scriptures encourage
followers of Jesus to pray to
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Mary?
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Well, let's get back to today's
presentation and learn some
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more amazing facts
from the Word of God.
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Doug: Not only will parents
represent God to your children,
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but their concept of
marriage is gonna come from you.
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Not only is it important that
children honor their parents and
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that parents live honorably, but
parents must be very careful to
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honor each other.
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Because if a father does
not honor his wife, your son
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probably will not honor his.
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If a mother does not respect
her husband, your daughter will
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probably not
respect her husband.
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And so, the model that the
parents establish for those
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children, what goes around will
come around, history will repeat
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itself.
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Now, some of you might be
thinking, "But pastor Doug, I
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grew up in a family
that was so dysfunctional.
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My mother and father
were not very honorable.
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They didn't honor each
other, and now it's causing me
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problems."
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By God's grace, you need to
break the cycle for the next
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generation, and it can happen.
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You know, one of the things I'm
amazed at when I read the Bible
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is how some of these rotten
kings had good kids, and how
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some of the good
kings had rotten kids.
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And so, you can't always say,
"Well, I'm a victim because of
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the way I grew
up, I can't help it."
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You need to break the cycle.
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"Only take heed to yourself, and
diligently keep yourself, lest
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you forget the things your eyes
have seen, and lest they depart
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from your heart all
the days of your life.
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And teach them to your children
and your grandchildren."
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I don't have time to read you
all the verses that talk about
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teaching the Word of God to your
children, here a little, there a
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little.
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Put it on the doorpost.
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Put it in your house when
you lay down, when you rise up.
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One of the most important things
if you want your children to
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grow up and be honorable and
serve God, you must be honorable
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and have family worship.
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The whole idea of honoring your
father and mother is learned
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through the Word of God,
and it's implying that you're
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teaching the Word
of God in your family.
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The Bible says these words
should be taught to the children
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and your children's children.
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Bible says grandparents
and parents teach them to the
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children.
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Colossians 3:21, "Fathers, do
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not provoke your children, lest
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they become discouraged."
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There's a balance between
disciplining your children and
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nagging and badgering
them so they're exasperated.
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You need to know how to guide
them, tell them what's right,
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tell them what's wrong, and when
they do something, right, tell
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them, encourage
them, thank them.
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If you're not appreciative
in the home, they won't be when
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they leave the home.
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And so, children will much more
do what they see than what they
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hear.
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So, these
things must be modeled.
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Heard about a young boy that
was talking to his father and he
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said, "Dad, is it always
true that parents know more than
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their children?"
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Said, "Yes, son,
it's always true."
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He said, "Dads always
know more than their sons?"
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Said, "Yes, son, dad,
always--dad's always know more
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than their sons."
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It was quiet and he said,
"Who invented the telephone?"
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He said, "Well,
Alexander Graham Bell."
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"So, how come his
father didn't invent it?"
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Evidently, he knew somebody
more than his father is the
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implication.
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You honor your mother and father
by not staying a child forever.
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The responsibility of parents is
to basically train your children
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for independence.
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From the time they're born, they
are utterly dependent and your
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responsibility is to teach them
to be independent, responsible,
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good, honest, respectful.
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And you know, there needs
to be respect in the family.
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You know, when kids grow up and
they see mom and dad yelling at
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each other, but they go out in
public and they're nice, they'll
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grow up thinking that yelling is
the way that you handle things
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in your families and in your
personal relationships, just
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whatever they see in the
family ends up being reproduced.
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That's why it's so
important to have this model.
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We're to train
them for independence.
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You're not honoring your parents
by staying at home when you're
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25, not going to school,
and you don't have a job.
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Parents, you are not honoring
God or helping your children by
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letting them do that.
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There comes a time where the
best thing in the world you can
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do for your kids is to practice
some tough love and say, "Praise
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the Lord, you're healthy, you're
educated, there's the door,
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seize the day.
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You're gonna
have an exciting life.
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Send me a postcard
when you get a job.
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Keep in touch."
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But you all know
what I'm talking about.
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Sometimes people don't
understand--you know, the Bible
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says in Genesis, "A man will
leave his father and mother and
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cleave unto his wife."
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And some of you are thinking,
"Well, I don't have a wife or a
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husband yet, so I'm
just staying at home."
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No, no, you're probably not
gonna get one either if you're
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45, and still
living with mom and dad.
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And you gotta--folks are
thinking, "You know, I can't
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compete, he's still bragging
about mom's cooking, and he's 30
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years old, and
he's living at home.
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How could I ever
compete with that?"
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And if you want to be on the
market and have your own home,
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there comes a time when
you gotta leave the nest.
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And, you know, you
even see this in nature.
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When the little eagle is young,
eagles are interesting because,
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you know, they mate for life,
they're very devoted companions.
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The mother and the father both
care for the chick, they work
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together.
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And they make their nests
real fluffy when they're babies,
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keeps the eggs from cracking.
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The nest is made out of sticks,
and rocks, and all kinds of
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things, and bones and--but they
get a lot of down, and fluff.
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And as the chicks get older,
pretty soon they get big and
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they're crowding each other
in their little nest and they're
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stretching their
wings, and they're flapping.
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They get where the parents know,
you know, they can fly, but
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they're comfortable 'cause we're
bringing them food every day.
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You know what the
parents start doing?
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They start bringing less food,
and they start getting hungry.
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And then the parents start to
scratch up all the down and they
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throw all that soft stuff out
of the nest, so they're not only
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hungry, they're uncomfortable.
00:17:02.22\00:17:03.99
They have all these bones, and
sharp sticks, and rocks in there
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and they go, "What's happened,
don't you love me anymore?"
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And they're basically saying,
"You got wings, you gotta learn
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to fly."
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The time comes when you gotta
take the leap and yes, there's
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risk and danger out there but,
you know, you just can't stay at
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home.
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So, part of that honor
relationship of parent and child
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is that you know you're supposed
to ultimately prepare them for
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the time when they launch.
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There needs to be a launch time.
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Should children honor
a dishonorable parent?
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Now, whenever you talk about the
subject about honoring mother
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and father, someone will
invariably say, "Well, that's
00:17:41.82\00:17:45.49
easy for you to say.
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You don't know my father,
you don't know my mother.
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They are impossible.
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They--the way they
treated me growing up.
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I was mistreated."
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How do you deal
with those situations?
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Well, there may be areas where
you say, "You know, I do try to
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honor but there are the days
when I just, you know, I can't
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speak peaceably to them
because they're so unreasonable.
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And even after I'm an adult,
they keep meddling in my life
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and telling me what to
do, or I can't talk to them.
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Every time we talk, we fight."
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And what do you do?
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And you can fill in the blank,
whatever your situation is, are
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you, no doubt,
in those situations?
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You should always be honorable
to their position as your mother
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and your father.
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You need to
respect them for that.
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If you cannot communicate
peaceably, maybe you're a
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Christian and they're not.
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If they do not ask you
to violate some command or
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principle, respect them.
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And if you have problems getting
along, write letters if you
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can't talk peacefully.
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Write a note.
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It's hard to argue with a note.
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Write a note and say, "You
know--" I've got a lot of people
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I counsel with and they say,
"You know, I just--I want to
00:18:51.39\00:18:53.16
honor my parents, but whenever
I talk to them, it just--they
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start to badger me and put
me down, and it's just painful."
00:18:55.30\00:19:00.24
I say, "All right, well, then
say--write them a note, tell
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them you love them, you respect
them, and just do it through the
00:19:03.14\00:19:05.11
mail.
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It just creates one little layer
of separation where you can
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show, 'I respect you, I want to
communicate with you but when we
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talk, it just isn't--'"
You know, and there may come a
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time--there are cases where you
need to cut off communication
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because it is so toxic, but
it doesn't mean you do it in a
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disrespectful way.
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You hear what I'm saying?
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There is one of the kings in
the Bible that had to make his
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mother, he had to basically fire
her from being Queen because she
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was worshiping
pagan idols in the temple.
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And so, you know, sometimes
you have to break that off.
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But as far as possible, even
the parents who are sometimes
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difficult,
respect them, honor them.
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They're your parents, amen?
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That doesn't mean that you need
to, once you become an adult,
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it's nice to listen to their
advice, you don't always have to
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follow it.
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They don't have to meddle in
your lives, but be respectful.
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Remember them, write them an
occasional note, make a phone
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call.
00:20:05.23\00:20:06.37
I heard about a woman that
called her rabbi and she turned
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60.
00:20:09.07\00:20:10.01
She thought it was
time to make out her will.
00:20:10.04\00:20:12.47
She says, "There's two things
I want you to help me with."
00:20:12.51\00:20:15.11
She said, "I want to
make sure that I'm cremated.
00:20:15.14\00:20:17.48
It's more affordable."
00:20:17.51\00:20:20.08
And she said, "Then I'd like you
to take my ashes, and could you
00:20:20.12\00:20:22.45
sprinkle them
all around Macy's?"
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He said, "Well, I got the first
part, but help me understand the
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second part."
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She said, "Yeah, I just want to
be sure my daughters will come
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and see me at
least twice a week."
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"Honor your father and mother
that your days will be long upon
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the land."
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This is a commandment that
actually has a promise in it,
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did you notice that?
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It tells us that your days
will be long upon the land.
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It says it a
couple of different ways.
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You look in Deuteronomy 5 where
the Ten Commandments are given
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there, it's different than
you find in Exodus chapter 20.
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"Honor your father and your
mother, as the Lord your God has
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commanded you, that your days
may be long, that it may be well
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with you in the land where the
Lord your God is giving you."
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Why does God promise a blessing?
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By the way, that was in
our Scripture reading also,
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Ephesians 6:1, "Children, obey
your parents in the Lord, that
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is right.
00:21:19.41\00:21:20.61
Honor your father and mother,
which is the first commandment,
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with promise that it may be will
with you that you may live long
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upon the earth."
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Long life is promised
in this commandment, why?
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Couple reasons.
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One, is God will
bless you for it.
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The other is, your parents have
learned the things they help you
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stay out of trouble.
00:21:39.59\00:21:41.96
Your parents, when your mother
and your father say, "Here are
00:21:42.00\00:21:44.37
the car keys, do not drive
fast," you honor them, your days
00:21:44.40\00:21:48.74
will be long upon the land.
00:21:48.77\00:21:51.17
You dishonor them,
they may not be as long.
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When you disobey, they're giving
you advice all the time to try
00:21:55.14\00:21:58.35
and keep you alive.
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And it's interesting that in the
countries that have the longest
00:22:00.32\00:22:04.95
life expectancy, they have the
best regard for their elders.
00:22:04.99\00:22:09.32
You know, what country has
the longest life expectancy?
00:22:09.36\00:22:12.09
Japanese.
00:22:12.13\00:22:14.10
Do they honor
their elders there?
00:22:14.96\00:22:16.90
It was amazing when they had
that tremendous earthquake a few
00:22:16.93\00:22:19.73
years ago to see the wonderful
tender care that people took for
00:22:19.77\00:22:24.47
the elders that were
displaced by all of this.
00:22:24.51\00:22:27.48
And they were so conscientious,
and so careful to because they
00:22:27.51\00:22:32.05
have--they're trained from
infancy to have high regard for
00:22:32.08\00:22:36.12
their elders.
00:22:36.15\00:22:37.32
They even take it too far in
some cultures, they got ancestor
00:22:37.35\00:22:39.69
worship, but they're very
careful to respect their elders.
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Honor your father and mother
that your days might be long.
00:22:44.43\00:22:48.13
You know, there's sin in
the world today and the reason
00:22:48.16\00:22:49.63
there's sin in the world today
is because our first parents did
00:22:49.66\00:22:55.67
not honor their father.
00:22:55.70\00:22:58.77
Adam and Eve, when they
disobeyed God, they disobeyed
00:22:58.81\00:23:02.44
their Heavenly Father, look at
all the trouble that it caused.
00:23:02.48\00:23:05.38
Death enter the world
from disobeying a parent.
00:23:05.41\00:23:10.19
And people's lives are often
shortened, one, by the curses
00:23:10.22\00:23:13.96
that God sends, the
other through practically not
00:23:13.99\00:23:15.99
listening to the good
information and advice our
00:23:16.02\00:23:18.19
parents give us.
00:23:18.23\00:23:19.73
But he promised your
days will be long in the land.
00:23:19.76\00:23:21.93
He was bringing them
into the Promised Land.
00:23:21.96\00:23:23.73
He said, "If you want to
live and have a long life and a
00:23:23.77\00:23:26.13
peaceful life, honor your
parents, and I'll do that for
00:23:26.17\00:23:29.70
you."
00:23:29.74\00:23:30.97
You know, this is a wonderful
commandment that has a promise
00:23:31.01\00:23:33.88
in it.
00:23:33.91\00:23:35.38
The children of
Israel learn to be faithful.
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There's a story in the Bible,
I don't have time to read the
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whole thing.
00:23:39.81\00:23:41.02
But you look in your Bibles in
the Book of Jeremiah chapter 35,
00:23:41.05\00:23:44.49
it talks about the Babylonians
had surrounded Jerusalem.
00:23:44.52\00:23:50.09
They were about to destroy
the city, judgment was coming.
00:23:50.13\00:23:53.46
Jeremiah was told by the
Lord, "I want you to call the
00:23:53.50\00:23:57.43
Rechabites, bring
them into the temple."
00:23:57.47\00:24:01.07
So this family, this tribe
of rehab, who is the son of
00:24:01.10\00:24:05.21
Jehonadab, who is a friend
of Jehu, that's another history,
00:24:05.24\00:24:10.05
they were
brought into the temple.
00:24:10.08\00:24:11.95
And Jeremiah had some wine
poured into pitchers and set
00:24:11.98\00:24:16.35
cups down in front of the
leaders of the Rechabites who
00:24:16.38\00:24:18.82
were there in the city,
he said, "Have a drink."
00:24:18.85\00:24:22.72
And they said,
"No, we'll not drink."
00:24:22.76\00:24:24.69
And he said, "Why not?
00:24:24.73\00:24:26.09
Have something to
drink, thus saith the Lord."
00:24:26.13\00:24:28.36
And they said, "No, because our
father Rahab," Rahab, that's how
00:24:28.40\00:24:33.94
you say it, "he commanded us
never to build a house, never to
00:24:33.97\00:24:39.61
drink anything from the vine,
and to live in tents and he said
00:24:39.64\00:24:45.08
we'd have long lives if we
followed his advice,' and for
00:24:45.11\00:24:48.78
several generations, they had
followed their father's advice,
00:24:48.82\00:24:51.32
and none of the
Rechabites ever drank wine.
00:24:51.35\00:24:55.82
And Jeremiah said, "Thus says
the Lord, because the Rechabites
00:24:55.86\00:24:59.96
have not disobeyed the
Lord, that when Jerusalem is
00:25:00.06\00:25:03.80
destroyed, I am gonna preserve
them because they obeyed their
00:25:03.83\00:25:07.57
father and their mother."
00:25:07.60\00:25:09.90
And he said, "They will never
fail to have a person to stand
00:25:09.94\00:25:12.97
before me because they've shown
respect for their elders this
00:25:13.01\00:25:16.38
way."
00:25:16.41\00:25:17.58
And so, before Jerusalem was
destroyed, God made Jeremiah act
00:25:17.61\00:25:21.52
out this whole scenario and
basically test them, and they
00:25:21.55\00:25:24.12
would not drink wine, even
though their father was long
00:25:24.15\00:25:26.15
dead.
00:25:26.19\00:25:27.36
They said, "Because he commanded
us and we've not done it for
00:25:27.39\00:25:28.82
generations.
00:25:28.86\00:25:30.03
And he said don't build a house
and only reason we're in the
00:25:30.06\00:25:31.99
city now is 'cause
Nebuchadnezzar surrounded the
00:25:32.03\00:25:34.00
city."
00:25:34.00\00:25:35.13
And said, "But we live in
tents as our father commanded."
00:25:35.16\00:25:37.77
And God said, "Because you obey
your father, I'm gonna bless
00:25:37.80\00:25:40.40
you.
00:25:40.44\00:25:41.37
I wish my people
would obey their Father."
00:25:41.40\00:25:44.77
And so, honor your father and
mother, first and foremost, it's
00:25:44.81\00:25:49.41
talking about God.
00:25:49.44\00:25:50.65
You know, God is portrayed
as our Father in heaven, and he
00:25:50.68\00:25:53.01
also sometimes uses
the verbiage of a mother.
00:25:53.05\00:25:55.58
Says, "As a hen protects its
chicken under its wing, so I've
00:25:55.62\00:25:59.55
loved you.
00:25:59.59\00:26:00.49
Can a woman
forget her nursing child?
00:26:00.52\00:26:02.99
How can I forget you?"
00:26:03.02\00:26:04.33
So, God loves us with the
love of a father and a mother.
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And if you want your days to be
long, I don't mean just long in
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male: Alexander the Great
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